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The problem with buying into common untruths In high-powered corporate jobs, women experience greater success with more masculine energy. The opposite is true in love. When women bring an abundance of masculine energy to love, they have a difficult time finding true and lasting love with a masculine man.
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If you’re a smart and successful woman, being professional, in charge, driven and strong are masculine traits that bring you much career success. You’ve been able to reach key goals and objectives and may even have been promoted to positions of greater responsibility. But, if the love you desire has eluded you, the recognition you receive for your hard work can’t make up for what’s most important in life – true love.
There are so many women I care deeply about —both friends and clients — who are holding themselves back from bringing love into their lives. Are you one of them? Are you saying "I want a fabulous man in my life" and "I know I'm a catch," yet not doing much to actually reach your self-described all-important goal? Are you doing the same routine each day, expecting things to be different? Are you staying closed in your head and your heart, unwilling to learn to better understand and love men...and yourself?
Have you ever looked back over your past relationships and said to yourself "What the hell was I thinking?" As you honestly reflect on your past, you will see that the red flags were waving all around you. There was a chance you may not have picked up on them because you were blinded by what you thought was love. But if you get real with yourself, you will see that the red flags were there, waving right in front of your eyes, almost from the very beginning. But you chose to ignore them.
Want to attract a confident, grounded man who will enhance your already great life? The best way to do it is to act like a lady. Yes, that age-old scenario is still true: masculine men are attracted to feminine women. Men want to know that they're contributing to our lives. When a man cares about you, making you happy is his mission. If you don't allow him this gift, chances are he will not stay. Or, if he does, he will give you what you ask for: nothing.
Challenged with how to respond when a man does something that ticks you off? Are you an independent, smart single woman who is dating and looking for love? If so, you've likely been challenged with how to respond when a man does something that ticks you off. What are realistic expectations? What should you tolerate? I get asked this question in many forms. It can be confusing. On the one hand, you have a strong desire to be liked and finally find The One. On the other hand, you are a confident woman who doesn't want to put up with nonsense or be a pushover.
When a man makes a fidelity or commitment mistake, it's HIS job to stand up and take responsibility. Have you heard about Weinergate? Just in case you haven't, it goes like this: Congressman Anthony Weiner, after denying it for days, got caught quite literally with his pants down. (Yeah, I know I'm not the first to use that. But it works.) Apparently The Weiner has been acting like a horny 16 year old, sexting endlessly to women he doesn't even know. (Nor, as I keep hearing reported, did he know their ages. Uh-oh.)
Learn about fun things to do on a long holiday weekend, whether you have a man to celebrate or not. Happy Memorial Day weekend! How about a little trivia to start your day? In 1868, May 30th was designated as a holiday to honor the nation’s Civil War casualties. Now called Memorial Day, it was originally known as Decoration Day. Red poppies are commonly associated with Memorial Day and are worn as a symbol of respect for those who have died in war. Visiting cemeteries and memorials is a common way to observe the day. Many people show their respect by placing flowers and wreaths on the graves of the departed.
We can learn a lot from Oprah, including how to be our best, most authentic selves. I hate being like everyone else, but I have to make an exception for Oprah. Everyone is talking about her, and rightly so. May 25 is her final show. Oprah will no longer be visiting us every weekday, teaching us, nourishing our spirits and making us laugh.
Longing for a man but don't want to lose your independence? I know the feeling, girlfriend. Are you a single woman over 40 who is smart, independent and thinking there are no good men out there? I hope you don’t mind my saying this: you are w-r-o-n-g. As a dating and relationship coach – and a woman who was a first‑time bride at 47 – I’m quite aware of what we tell ourselves: Men can’t handle smart, powerful women…I’m not going to change just to snag a man…I’m going to wait for the man who accepts me just the way I am. He’ll come along. Sound familiar at all?
Unavailable men love you but available, single men don't. There's a pretty simple reason. I have many coaching clients who tell me that they have great friendships with men but don't get asked out very often; if at all. They are dating in their 40s, 50s and beyond, and this has been a pattern for them throughout their lives. This "married men love me but I can't get a date" situation was the story of my life before I married at 47. Looking back at my experience, as well as that of my clients, I can see these two scenarios: 1. You talk to men and they seem to like you, but none ask you out.
