Getting to "I Do" by Pat Allen and Sandra Harmon "Ignore the whole book, except the chapter on masculine and feminine energy; it tells you to choose which one you want to be—even though there are many shades of gray—and stick with it, because it makes things a lot easier. It pisses a lot of people off and it's controversial, but I think it's good to know that extreme. Pat Allen is not in her 20s and dating, and is so far from that world that a lot of her viewpoints are just too antiquated. Still, it's good to know both super-casual and super conservative dating styles so each woman can find the balance that feels authentic to her. Take what she has to say on masculine and feminine energy and combine it with Lauren Frances's dating style, and that's going to be most women's golden formula."