Keeping the Love You Find: A Guide for Singles by Harville Hendrix "Getting the Love You Want is a little bit "inner child," it talks about how we look for something in our partners something that was missing for us earlier in our lives. Because of this, we're all mismatched to a certain extent, and it tells you how to bridge those gaps. Keeping the Love You Findhas you take responsibility and own your wounded needy parts and not gloss over them with simple bolstering or affirmations. It acknowledges parts that wants to be approved of and loved in certain ways. It doesn't try to stop us from being human beings and having those issues. Good stuff to add to daters' lexicon."