Sow Seeds-Pull Weeds “Be open minded, but not so open minded that your brains fall out.” -Groucho Marx Part 1
There’s a reason sleep is considered the new sex. I think exhaustion is very real and a big concern for couples. No doubt, there are many times when a couple is too tired to have sex. Generally though, being tired shouldn’t equate to a person’s motivation to have sex.
Sigh. It's been another long day and your feet hurt. By the time the TV is off, the dishes are washed, and you've donned a pair of baggy sweatpants, the only thing on your mind is making love. To your pillow, that is. Well, we know the feeling, and according to a recent study by the National Sleep Foundation one in four Americans who are married or living with someone do too. Yes, that's right; nearly 25 percent of the population is so sleep-deprived that they frequently find themselves skimping on sex in favor of slumber. What a shame. The Sleep In America poll focused on the differences in sleep habbits between ethnic groups. It sampled 1,007 adults aged 25-60, and respondents across the board confessed to frequently feeling too tired for sex. (21 - 26 percent of the time). Not Tonight: What's Behing Your Lackluster Libido What this really means is that we are a country of over-worked, over-tired, insomniacs who might as well sleep in twin beds. But that doesn't have to be the case! Your bed need not be forming icicles. With a few tweaks to your schedule, as well as your mind-set, you can have that queen bed rockin' once more!
Mom always got on us about getting our Z's every night. As annoying as that could be, as much as we wanted to stay up and talk on the phone/watch late night TV/read magazines, she was on to something. And who is the most sleep-deprived in our culture? You guessed it: single, working women and mothers. What do you think, can you and your S.O. vow to get a full night of sleep every night for a month?
Everyone knows that there are a few signs that he's a keeper. Usually these good signs include thoughtfulness and various degrees of compatibility. But what about complaining and arguing? Here are a few unconventional omens that should get you baking that engagement chicken.
Married women sleep better than those who are single? Apparently it’s true, according to an 8 year study released in June by The Pittsburgh School of Medicine, which found that women who are in good marriages get better quality zzz’s than those who spend their nights in bed alone.
Yes, I love my husband and family and wouldn't change a thing about our family unit. Now that I have made that obligatory statement, let me get to my point. There are certain issues that I have with the institution of marriage, which offers both wonderful benefits and incredible challenges, often in the same day. Here are the five things I hate about marriage.
Anyone who's been in love, lust or a variation of the sort knows about becoming attached to a scent. Tommy Hilfiger cologne, Old Spice deodorant with a hint of sweat, and Trident gum all come to mind. The funky side of this olfactory attraction is when the reminding scent happens to be an unpleasant one. Armpits, for example, are not famously sweet smelling. Yet, nestling into a man's nook and inhaling a mix of his natural body odor (likely with a trace of deodorant) can be oddly comforting, erotic or both. The same goes for morning breath.
The importance of sleep may just save your relationship. It's fair to say that most women dig cuddling. It's fair to say that most dudes would prefer to sleep than snuggle. It's also fair to say that most ladies are not amused when their guys come back from the bar smelling like gin and wanting to get frisky. Respecting the sleep-time requests of your partner might just save your relationship.
According to the National Sleep Foundation, 23% of which admit to sleeping in separate beds and 20% of all couples claim they have less sex and/or have lost interest in sex because they were too sleepy. The tension between Zoe and me was also common. "The resentments build up, then you explode," explained Dr. Rosalind Cartwright, Ph.D., director of the Rush University Sleep Center in Chicago, who further noted a high divorce rate among people with sleep problems. Then came the matter of my potential diagnosis.
I suppose it’s a little TMI that as I was surfing Dear Sugar, I immediately clicked when I saw "Not a Fan of Sex Before Bed? Try This." (Hey, I have a kid. A very time-consuming one.) Let’s just say I can relate. We're not all night owls. And I found the tips somewhat useful, such as: