Producers of shows such as The Bachelor don't want you to know this. Peddlers of dating guides try to keep it a secret. Some of my fellow scholars pretend it's not true. But it is true. Plenty of single people are leading happy and successful lives. I've been studying singles for well over a decade, and I'm happy to let you in on the seven habits of highly successful singles.
SINGLE AND LOVING IT
BodyTalk practitioner and author Heather Strang's book The Quest is a vivid tale of love, spirit, and deep diving in one's own psyche to be the love they are looking for. Now soon to be a film, The Quest is a fictional story that challenges any reader to remove the barriers within them to love. Most of the time, being single has more to do with identity, than availability.
It’s the month of love, and with Valentine’s Day fast approaching, it’s easy for single girls to feel a bit left out. We may yearn to be in a loving relationship, especially around this time of year, but what many of us don’t realize, is that in order to find happiness as part of a couple, we need to first feel happy being single. Also, just because you don’t have a boyfriend right now, doesn’t mean you don’t have lots of love to give, whether it’s on a pet, a family member, or friends.
Valentine’s day is an invented holiday that has become fraught with expectations and promises along with hurt and fake joy! Let’s challenge the meaning of this once a year time, and stop feeling wasted emotions. This one day of the year really has no meaning. It is a waste of time, energy, emotion, and love!
It seems to be the way of our society, and maybe there is some truth to it also, people who are single, all too often seem to be in conflict with their single hood and wish they were not single. But, I have a theory that many people who are single for a length of time, are single because they actually deep down want to be, and need to be single.
The most couple-friendly time of year is upon us and so it is easy to fall victim to your inner Scrooge if you are single. Even the mall is seemingly no longer for all of us — couples strolling hand in hand, families taking their young children to see Santa and beaming newlyweds searching for the perfect gift. It is almost enough to make me want to say inside for the entire month of December, watching reruns of Sex and the City with a pint of ice cream.
During the holidays, it can be a challenging time for fun loving singles looking for love. When invitations to work parties, friend’s gatherings and cookie exchanges call for an RSVP Plus One, it may be a reminder that you are not coupled up during the merriest of seasons.
The year-end holidays are around the corner. November and December are stressful months as families prepare for feasting, exchanging presents and celebrating another year. For many singles, however, family gatherings can be painful — especially if parents, siblings or well-meaning relatives wonder why you're not "with someone."
Ahhh ... November. Are you eating pumpkin pie and feeling like a turkey because you're single? Well, there are a hundred ways to cook, stuff, bake, slow roast, dry rub, fry, and barbecue a turkey — and your dating life — over the holidays. Don't over stuff yourself with two helpings of buttery sweet potatoes, green beans cooked with bacon, chocolate cake, cookies, seven layer salad, and mashed potatoes just because you're single.
Dating isn't easy when you don't have children. Add some little ones to the mix and you've got a complex situation.
“Why does dating have to be so hard?” That is the question that most of my clients always seem to ask during our initial consultation process. Nobody really teaches us how to date. Most of us learn by years of trial and error, some of us learn by observing and others are still in the process of trying to figure out what works for them. They say hind sight is 20/20 but even then, sometimes we find ourselves getting caught up in some of these infamous dating traps that keep us on our search for finding “The One.”
By Terri Trespicio, for GalTime.com do you see a ring on this finger? There is a great myth out there being sold wholesale to single people: You're incomplete if you do not have a partner. There's also the time sensitive version: You're incomplete--and a failure--if you do not have a partner by age X. I've got news for you, people. This is complete and utter bullshit.