Some lesbians don't want to date anyone who has been near a penis. Ever. Girls who have always been gay and nothing else carry it like a badge of honor. And, frankly, I'm jealous of them. I wish it was that easy for me to figure it out. But it wasn't.
When it comes to dating, there are specific types of men and women that we know we should avoid. Well, most people know to avoid them. Others, actually many, of us don't see the warning signs until it's too late. They are what we refer to as "that" guy or girl.
Name: Brian || Location: New York , New York |Question: Hi Moxie,so I have a pretty simple question. I'm 40, divorced, been back on the dating scene for 4 years and find I'm falling victim of technology. I am easy going and can speak to anyone about anything, but get just a little tongue-tied when speaking to a woman I have an interest in. For a long while I've used online dating sites and speed dating for meeting women, so if I get a response to an online email or a 'yes' from speed dating I can take it from there.But I find that I've gotten out of practice of simply asking out a woman. And if I do, I'll wonder if they understand I asked them out. For example I recently was chatting with a woman at an event and as we were parting I asked 'would you like to get together sometime?' She said sure, she'd send me an email, but then I wonder if me question was too vague- I was asking her out, but she might just think it's a friendly get together and
The nature of sexual preference has been debated for some time. While a true "gay gene" hasn't been discovered, many think there is a genetic component to it. But some people think that sexuality is defined by individual act. Our buddies Em & Lo disabuse a reader of that notion.
Watching 'The Real World: Cancun' makes me feel old for multiple reasons. 1. I am five years too old to actually be cast on the show. 2. It's so insanely vapid that I cannot actually watch a full episode, which says a lot considering I can stomach an entire marathon of "Keeping Up With The Kardashians." 3. Every single girl in the cast seems to be bisexual. Why does point three make me feel old? Well, I think I just missed the boat on the bisexuality trend. Hear me out. I believe sexuality is a spectrum and where we fall on that spectrum when we're born and how our sexuality evolves as a result of societal influence depends on the person. I also don't think it's relevant whether a person is gay, straight or bi, whether they were born that way or 'chose' that 'lifestyle,' as I don't think what goes on in a person's bedroom or romantic life is anyone's business. In the last five years or so, female bisexuality has become quite 'cool.'
Poll: Would You Date a Bisexual man?: Of course, he likes me for me. Love doesn't have to be gender-specific. Never. Mama didn't raise no fool.
Oprah Winfrey's resident sex doctor, Dr. Laura Berman encourages parents to embrace their children's sexuality and even encourage it. A stoic-faced Berman told the rows of moms sitting in the audience yesterday, where the topic was How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex, that the ripe, old age of 13 or 14 is way too late to have the "big sex talk." Instead she guesses around 9 or 10 is appropriate. She even suggests mothers buy their teenage daughter a vibrator. To empower them, of course. "You're teaching them about their own body and pleasuring themselves and taking the reins of their own sexuality so that they don't ever have to depend on any other teenage boy to do it for them," Dr. Berman says. We saw that grimace you just gave the computer screen. We feel you, reader. The thought of our mothers gifting us a pocket rocket isnt anything that would've made us any more sexually balanced as a teen. In fact, we probably would've been less likely to use it, but Berman is intent that parents evolve with the times and strip away anytaboo when it comes to sex. Specifically sex toys.
Do I bring my stripper-induced sensory overload into the bedroom? You betcha! My wife and I have known one another since college, and over the years we have achieved the perfect blend of familiarity and mystery by sharing fantasies without breaking trust. Though she doesn't bring a director and makeup trailer to bed, I am sure there are some nights after a Mad Men episode that I am the Jon Hamm understudy in one of her fantasies. Sex is not only about love but about play as well, and if she closes her eyes once in a while to pretend she is riding someone's see-saw, that's OK by me.
Should our sexual fantasies be morally and politically correct? Excerpted from Best Sex Writing 2009, erotica writer Kristina Lloyd explores her taste for pleasure with a side of discomfort and the judgment that writing graphic sex scenes draws. An intriguing reflection on fantasies and how they define us.