I have a question to ask you. Amidst the hustle and bustle of your busy work and personal lives, when was the last time you played? Close your eyes and try recalling some of the happiest moments in your life: What might they be? Whether this memory is of you as a child or as an adult, chances are, they involved some sort of play.
Oh, Rush, Rush, Rush. Do you have any idea how deeply wounded you are? Do you not see how your thwarted view of the opposite sex is fueled by untold fear and confusion about what it means to be a man? Did you miss the sexual revolution of the 1960’s which has evolved into the awareness that sexual expression between caring, consenting adults can actually be emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually healthy?
Not only is Rush Limbaugh way wrong on his comments about Georgetown University student Sandra Fluke but there's an even bigger problem that affects relationships and marriages everywhere when someone with a large audience or platform like Rush makes derogatory comments about women like the ones he made recently.
S.L.U.T: A solely, liberated, unbiased truth-teller. If this is true, then I'm game. As a matter of fact, I am a s.l.u.t and I know quite a few who men who share this distinguished title. Recently, Rush Limbaugh slammed Sandra Fluke, a law student at Georgetown, when she spoke in front of the House Democratic Steering and Policy Committee about increasing help from insurance companies for women receiving contraception. Afterward, Limbaugh called her a variety of derogatory names, including "slut" and "prostitute." Now, he has been slammed where it hurts the most, his wallet.
What do we do when we meet up with someone whose values are so opposed to our own? What about being curious as to why and how they made their decisions versus being judgmental? What about pondering their philosophy to come to a deeper understanding of another person's point of view, before condemning? Lastly, can we maintain civility and be polite regardless if we vehemently disagree?
One does not set out to be a sexuality educator, not one coming from a typical Chinese family anyway. I became one to help people because I was tired to sex always talked about in negative ways.
The only sexuality education I received in secondary school (or high school in the U.S.) was in the form of annual school talks presented by pharmaceutical companies promoting sanitary pads or tampons (depending where they were from). The boys got to first jeer at us, as they went out to play in the sun. We, the young ladies, had the burden of listening to instruction on menstruation and the need to clean up after ourselves.
Growing up in a relatively typical Chinese family in Singapore, I received very little sexuality education. Let me give you the context: I did not know that what I had "down there" was called the vulva even though I had the "bits." I did not attempt to pronounce the word penis until I was 26, and as if that by itself was not awkward enough, I was then told that I said it wrong! Here are nine things that I wish I had learned in sex-ed as a teenager...
Singles Find Love Through Tantric Practices What is Tantra anyway? Let’s start there with the most pertinent question in this new age of psychobabble, open sexual expression, and deeply rooted needs for healing the Earth and ourselves. Tantra is not sex and sex is not necessarily Tantric. Now that we’ve got that out of the way, we can begin to understand what Tantra truly is and how it meets sexuality at the cross road with the Divine.
Body language reveals our true feelings, and your relationship partner has no trouble with picking up on this physical queue. But what does your body language say while you are sleep? Are there sleeping positions that will excite the man of your dreams? In sleep, we are our most honest, vulnerable selves and certain sleep positions can immediately evoke sensual thoughts and pleasures.
For once, my teenage daughter decided to talk to me. We were driving home from school and she said, "Dad, I have something to tell you." Here it comes, I thought — either some overwrought teenage drama or a parent's worst nightmare is about to escape my precious firstborn's lips. With a quavering voice she delivered the punch: "Jackie and I are dating."
Like most women, I have no shame in admitting that I find other females attractive. I have even admitted to being open to experimentation ("Of course I would sleep with Halle Berry! It's a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity"). For women, it's perfectly acceptable to be a little bi-curious (cue every male fantasy), and according to the latest research, it's the norm.
When couples get divorced, there is the obvious hurt, confusion and anger. What will it be like to live alone? What will you tell the kids? Who is the other woman or man? These feelings become more complicated when your spouse falls for someone of their same sex.
For those of you in a sexual relationship, the way you have sex says a lot. Yes, sex is so intimate and revealing an activity that it has the power to uncover and expose us; literally. Having been in and around the Performing Arts for some years, we have always been told that dance is very revealing. It has the power to strip and expose the dancer so much that whatever a dancer is going through emotionally, is often revealed through his/her dance. The same is true about sex.
Can I talk to a child about sexuality? Curiosity about sexuality is a natural part of growing up. Children have the right to receive information, support and positive messages about sexuality, relationships and reproductive health. As a provider, you can assist a child by giving information about sexuality that is clear, correct and positive. It is best for this information to come from the adults in their life that they know and trust.
I have worked with individuals and couples for the past 43 years, and I have heard this question countless times: "Why doesn't my partner want to have sex with me?" Over and over, I discover that there is often ONE major reason he or she doesn’t want to have sex.