Welcome to 30 Days Of Love, our one-month initiative to bring you closer to the love you deserve just in time for Valentine's Day. Today, we're shining the spotlight on fantasy — and its role in a fulfilling relationship.
A close look at these fantasies to find out how common they are in the bedroom and if they're acceptable sexual behavior.
As anyone in a committed relationship knows, the inner dialogue of passion changes once you've been together for a while. Your partner's touch may now feel more comfortable than thrilling, but that doesn't mean that your sex life can't still inhabit that exciting, novel space of a new relationship. Here are three simple steps to identifying, sharing and exploring your fantasies together.
Is it possible to have hot sex while being monogamous? Like anything else out there, it takes work and a certain amount of creativity. The answer is a definite YES. It is MORE than possible to have a smokin’ hot monogamous relationship. I believe that is a big part of the reason why the mom porn book “50 Shades of Grey” is so popular – the women reading it are turned on by all the kinky monogamy.
If you can't express your private fantasies to the one person you're most intimate with, then who can you share them with? Sexploration — indulging your naughty side by acting your sexual fantasies together — is one the best (and most fun!) ways to bond with your partner. It requires trust and openness, of course — plus a healthy dose of adventure.
How long should you wait in a new relationship to share a fantasy with your lover? According to a new Durex survey, men say they want to share fantasies as soon as possible - within the first three months of a relationship. The women surveyed chose to wait a little longer to share their fantasy, reporting 6 months to a year of a relationship is time enough to build the trust to start having the intimate conversation about fantasies.
How we understand fantasy. Many people approach the inner workings of their erotic mind with great trepidation, believing that the content of their fantasy life is inappropriate in the context of a loving relationship. Our cultural taboos about erotic fantasy are so strong that the very idea of discussing sexual fantasy leads some of us to anxiety and shame. Fantasy, however, can be an ingenious way for the creative mind to overcome relational and intrapsychic conflicts around desire and intimacy. Fantasy can be a tool to heal.
The "Fifty Shades" books continue to generate buzz. As an expert in dominance and submission, as well as a general sexual enthusiast, I have a few ideas about how the "Fifty Shades" books became so popular and why they won't be losing their steam anytime soon.
Panty Parade / Off Go the Panties If you ever find yourself saying, I only get to have sex once in a blue moon OR I haven’t really enjoyed sex in years OR Sex? What’s that? It may be about time to make a fucket list.
If you're worried about what your significant other is fantasizing about, you can stop right now. A new study, conducted at Spain's University of Granada, says men and women in relationships have pretty similar sexual fantasies, in that both genders fantasize about their loved one. Researchers surveyed a group of Spanish citizens who had been in relationships for six months or longer.
Sharing your fantasies with your partner is an important first step to bringing them to life. If you don't talk about what you want, how are you ever going to get it? There are a variety of ways to have this conversation but the main goal is to get these sexy thoughts out of your head and into real life!
With the world-wide phenomenon that the ‘Fifty Shades Of Grey” trilogy has become it’s impossible to escape the media coverage, the ecstatic fan base and the conversation it’s all stirred up. The most important aspect of these books is the permission they give to read, enjoy and even live out kinky fantasies.
Question: I discovered my partner looks at a lot of porn (mostly barely-legal age individual women sites) on a regular basis. I have no problem with viewing porn, but the individual young girls reality was upsetting (I’m mid 40's but look/act 30's). He explained that he uses these sites for masturbation and that it means nothing negative towards me or our relationship. Is this typical male behavior?