Research indicates that over 55% of married women are not interested in having sex with their husbands. I've worked with many men who also are not interested in sex with their wives. The problem is generally not a lack of sexual desire - it's that they are not interested in sex with their partner. Why?
What is it that makes a middle-aged woman and man suddenly notice each other? It happens regularly when we are younger and theories regarding childbearing are in play; but not so much as women get older. Many of us have experienced the isolation and frustration of being "invisible" to men when we're over 50.
Ever wondered what keeps us in love with someone, how to rescue a failing relationship or who's most likely to reject you based on your fashion choices? YourTango has the answers! MSN lifestyle website Glo.com, YourTango and Chemistry.com surveyed over 20,000 people, and leading biological anthropologist and relationship expert Dr. Helen Fisher analyzed the results, a few of which just might surprise you.
The question of what it takes to attract a man may be simple, but the science behind what repels him may be a little more complex.
What attracts you to someone when you first meet them? What keeps the passion alive in a relationship? How do turn-ons change over time? These were some of the questions on a recent survey conducted by YourTango, Glo.com and Chemistry.com. Over 20,000 people took the survey and the results were analyzed by Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and author of numerous influential books on love. You can see all the results at www.RekindleAttraction.com. Here, we talk with Dr. Fisher about sex, love and the new age of relationships.
First, I had to free myself, to realize it was okay to put myself first sometimes, that I had a right to life too. "Can you watch the kids tonight?" I'd ask Matt, slipping on earrings, off for a night out with girlfriends. Soon I started dressing better during oppressive Minnesota winters; thinking more; feeling engaged mentally even when I wasn't. Because as my peer group stretched, I got support, ears to listen, voices that identified; I didn't depend solely on Matt for validation or appreciation. And through that I found my voice.
A new survey claims women say they prefer men stubble-free. But are we genetically programmed to feel otherwise about beards?
What's going on? Is lustful passion so objectifying that it negates tenderness? Is it so difficult for us to accept all that we are? Why can't we be mothers and fathers, needy children, able businesspeople, and also vixens and studs when the time is right?
I went on a date the other week with a pair of hot Swedish volleyball players with galactic hoots and bodies so taut that quarters bounce off bellies. These buxom hotties could easily have graced the pages of Brodawg Magazine, posing in the rain, wearing only leather belts. As they were putting on their heels to join me in the champagne jacuzzi, it occurred to me that these phantasmagorical sirens weren't doing it for me. Then I woke up with both of my arms in my pant legs. Cursed margaritas, so tequila-y and delicious.
Can one possibly tell within the first ten seconds of meeting if there's a mutual attraction? The journal Archives of Sexual Behavior seems to think so, even pinpointing the exact time to a tenth of a second. Not surprisingly, men are ridiculously easy to read. Researchers say that on the first meeting if he breaks your gaze at the four second mark, he's just sort of "eh' about you. Yet if the initial eye contact extends to the 8.2 second mark than he's into you. Women on the other hand, notoriously confusing in nature, will give equal eye contact to men they're into and ones they aren't, say scientists. This information was culled from 115 students, secretly being filmed, meeting actors and actresses for the first time. While the cameras filmed the meeting, scientists analyzed the tapes and later quizzed the students on whom they were most physically attracted. In conclusion, they theorize men use eye contact as a form of mating, while women—who, let's be honest, aren't really the aggressors anyway—shy away from overt eye contact to subconsciously avoid unwanted attention.
Look out, Viagra! Your long stint of unrivaled success may come up against a new competitor in a few years. What's behind this new threat to the mighty blue pill? The malodorous (some may say nauseating) gas, hydrogen sulfide.
