Introduction to this blog...
You've heard it before, but I'm not going to browbeat you about the immorality of going all the way on the first night. I'm also not going to say that you're likely to drive away relationship material if, as the adage goes, the man "gets the milk for free." (If that drives him away, then be glad you're seeing the taillights.) No, take it from a man who knows: there's a hidden reason that—if you do it right—you should never have sex on a first date.
Do I bring my stripper-induced sensory overload into the bedroom? You betcha! My wife and I have known one another since college, and over the years we have achieved the perfect blend of familiarity and mystery by sharing fantasies without breaking trust. Though she doesn't bring a director and makeup trailer to bed, I am sure there are some nights after a Mad Men episode that I am the Jon Hamm understudy in one of her fantasies. Sex is not only about love but about play as well, and if she closes her eyes once in a while to pretend she is riding someone's see-saw, that's OK by me.
Sex. And the absence of a healthy sex life can lead to its dissolve. Bettina Arndt, an Australian sex therapist of 35 years, noticed an ongoing trend. The married couples lining her waiting room were mainly complaining of the same marital gripe – the disappearance of sex. She then set about doing research to figure out what was happening, reports the Brisbane Times.
Sex after divorce can be intimidating: a new partner can mean a new bed, a new body, and new — well — techniques. Usually, though, the hardest part is just becoming psychologically ready to date again. After that, you're likely to find that the old riding a bike analogy applies to other leisure activities as well. That being said, there's a lot you can work on all by yourself to improve your sex life.
What in the world does chin size have to do with bed-hopping? A team of psychologists recently concluded that women who have a prominent jawline instinctively turn off men because it denotes promiscuity. According to a recent study written about in the journal of Personality And Individual Differences, a team of psychologists rounded up a group of women and quizzed them on their sexual pasts and attitudes. For whatever reason, girls with big chins almost always had a more colorful and active sex life. They also say a more masculine jaw line turns off men and makes you appear more promiscuous and more prone to cheating.
Sarkozy's exercise regimen improved his sex life—and it can better yours, too! The froggy prez has been on a serious exercise regimen, and in the past 10 months has dropped nine pounds and two pants sizes. But there's a not-so-evident benefit as well: improved sex life. Sarkozy's trainer, Julie Imperiali, revealed the secret to her performance-enhancing routine: focus on the perineum. Keeping the perineum in shape is helpful for women as well—ever heard of Kegel exercises?
When all is said and done, there’s not much to like. I mean, really: What is the big deal? So writes essayist Lauren Slater in this week's Modern Love section of The New York Times. If you suspected Mr. Lauren Slater may not be too pleased that "sex interests me these days about as much as playing checkers," you'd be correct. The authoress writes that her husband's sex drive far surpasses her own. The tricky thing about differing sex drives is that assumption, which hangs over the relationship like a storm cloud, that "something's wrong" with the less interested partner. Fear? Guilt? Anxiety? Depression? Medication? Anti-depressants? Painful intercourse, called dyspareunia? Some might even try a visit with a sex therapist to explore possible reasons. But what if you find deep down, conclusively, that you just don't like sex?
Are you watching a ton of TV? Are you missing out on things like sex? If you're a grown-up there may be correlation between your sex life and the amount of time you spend with the boob tube. The good news is that you can change and you'll be much happier for it. Somehow teens can both watch racy TV and have plenty of sex. Not that we should let irresponsible teen pregnancy be a guide but they could be onto something.
Guys, listen up. If you're preparing for a trip down the aisle in the near future and need some groom advice, then there is only one website you can turn to. Groomgroove.com is this weeks blogger crush and it is the ultimate guide for dudes who are about to pop the big question. But don't worry ladies, this site is also for you! Although The Groove (as we choose to abbreviate it) targets men, most of their wisdom can go both ways. Some, in particular, is even more important for the ladies. So for this blogger crush, we are going to outline what advice on The Groove is good for guys only, girls only, and, of course, what is best for both worlds. Ready? Here we go.
A couple's sex life was on long boring trip. But everything changed when they introduced a little dirty talk in the bedroom. After a little initial embarrassment, their sex life become more spontaneous, more passionate, and the rest of their love life followed suit.
Imagine your significant other: boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, favorite goat. Now, picture not being able to have sex—not because you're uninterested in sex, not because you're separated by oceans and continents, connected only by steamy emails. Instead, sex feels like a dull, rusty steak knife being twisted and jabbed where no dull, rusty steak knife belongs. Doctors can't seem to diagnose it, much less treat it. Bleak, isn't it? When I was 24, sex just hurt, for no discernible reason. Eight long months later, I learned I had a condition known as vulvodynia, a medical term which roughly translates to "no sex for you, missy."... Painful sex wasn't what made the headlines in popular media. I didn't know it existed. My doctors didn't know it existed. Yet, statistics show that as many as one woman in six might suffer from vulvodynia in her lifetime, often thanks to unknown causes.
A video camera in the bedroom: naughty way to spice up your sex life—or therapeutic tool to reveal deeper truths about your relationship? Both, says Michael Alvear, a gay Atlanta-based sexpert who spent three seasons with The Sex Inspectors, a British television show in which he and his co-host analyzed video footage of long-term couples. Their goal? To help the twosomes get their passion back, both in and out of the sack. Since it aired in 2004, the show has appeared on HBO and has been duplicated in about a dozen countries. I had a chat with Alvear to get the real take on what happens both on-screen and behind the scenes when the film is rolling—and to find out what you can learn by inviting an all-seeing camera into your bedroom.
Keep it in your pants, gramps. From CBS (CBS/AP) An unprecedented study of sex and seniors finds that many older people are surprisingly frisky — willing to do, and talk about, intimate acts that would make their grandchildren blush. That may be too much information for some folks. But it comes from the most comprehensive sex survey ever done among 57- to 85-year-olds in the United States. Sex and interest in it do fall off when people are in their 70s, but more than a quarter of those up to age 85 reported having sex in the previous year. And the drop-off has a lot to do with health or lack of a partner, especially for women, the survey found. Tango’s Take