Remember your sex ed class? Do you remember it fondly, or with dread? My own high school sex ed program --- more than 25 years ago --- took a whopping 10 minutes. The priest led my classmates and me in the Lord's Prayer, and then reassured us that we would eventually grow out of the urge to masturbate. That was it. Lesson over. Incomplete though it was, I also have to give Father Frank credit. It was about as progressive as one might expect at an all boy's Catholic high school. Imagine what he could have said.
People are pretty busy these days, and I bet you are too. There’s always so much to do that actually taking the time to go out and learn how to keep your sex life hot, is a fantasy in and of itself. You might not even have a high quality sex shop nearby that offers live classes, so it’s only been books and DVDs to show you some tricks and tips.
We humans are voyeurs by nature, and research has even shown that unmarried couples who watch erotica together are more committed than those who don't. But, here's the thing, there's not a ton of female- and couple-friendly porn out there. Which is why we're voting for educational sex videos to be the go-to erotica for couples.
What's lube got to do with it? In this article, everything. Whether you're looking to spice up your relationship or just want to enjoy sex more, a personal lubricant may be exactly what the doctor doesn't have to order. But before you visit that special aisle, get informed with these six essential lube facts.
Erectile Dysfunction (ED), is no laughing matter. Research shows that approximately one out of ten men experiences ED or a loss of libido at least once in their lives. ED has numerous causes, and according to the National Institutes of Health, approximately 5% of 40-year-old men and between 15% and 25% of 65-year-old men experience ED on a long-term basis ... and it is becoming increasingly more common in younger men.
Would you prefer spontaneous or planned dates and sex? I can almost guarantee you are thinking that you want spontaneous. But, I am going to guess that you aren't getting the spontaneity you desire. So here is where the planning comes in to help you CREATE spontaneity. Awhile back I wrote a blog post about one of my favorite weekly activities - Date Day/Night/Time.
One does not set out to be a sexuality educator, not one coming from a typical Chinese family anyway. I became one to help people because I was tired to sex always talked about in negative ways.
I was probably 11 or 12 when I watched a video called “The Silent Scream” in primary school (or grade school in the U.S.). It is a documentary video which depicts the abortion process via ultrasound and shows an abortion taking place in the uterus. During the abortion process, the presenter dramatically paused the video as the 11-week fetus opens its mouth in the uterus – in what appeared to be an outcry of pain and discomfort – and went, “There, there, there is the silent scream!”
The only sexuality education I received in secondary school (or high school in the U.S.) was in the form of annual school talks presented by pharmaceutical companies promoting sanitary pads or tampons (depending where they were from). The boys got to first jeer at us, as they went out to play in the sun. We, the young ladies, had the burden of listening to instruction on menstruation and the need to clean up after ourselves.
Growing up in a relatively typical Chinese family in Singapore, I received very little sexuality education. Let me give you the context: I did not know that what I had "down there" was called the vulva even though I had the "bits." I did not attempt to pronounce the word penis until I was 26, and as if that by itself was not awkward enough, I was then told that I said it wrong! Here are nine things that I wish I had learned in sex-ed as a teenager...
I Heart NYC's Safe Sex Education Mandate by Dr. Dorree Lynn NYC + Safe Sex Education = Attention Getter! If there were ever two topics that make my heart jump, they would be "New York City" and "Safe Sex" and when you put them in the same sentence, well, you've got my attention! You can imagine my excitement when I saw a post on Huffington Post this morning about New York City's Sex Education mandate. *(you can read the article here)
A little known fact: babies begin masturbating to the point of orgasm while they are in utero - still in the womb! Our cultural insistence to see children as asexual is a form of denial which creates a lot of damage. As an incest survivor, I am well acquainted with how debilitating adult/child sexual interaction is. I am adamantly opposed to anything which removes the incest taboo for a variety of reasons and I understand how fearful we as a society have become about child molestation.
From "don't sleep together too soon" to "sow your wild oats before settling down," society is full of mixed messages about sex, love, dating and the intersection of the three. To get help deciding which advice to heed and which to skip, I asked scientists to explain some of their discoveries about human sexual behavior (yes, scientists do study such things). It turns out that their findings are often the exact opposite of what we tend to believe. Here are 7 surprising sex facts everyone should know.
It seems the whole issue of sexual education causes angst for many parents. Some parents actually appreciate that the schools cover it, sparing them from embarking into such awkward discussion with their pre-teen. And then there are parents, particularly Christians, who are against what is taught in the schools about sex, yet simultaneously neglect initiation of discussions with their children at home. What a conundrum. We don't want the "system" telling them about sex and we don't want to do it either, leaving them few alternatives but to navigate the waters on their own. Is it any wonder so many teens are having sex?
Reaching our mid-30s can be fabulous. That's something we learned from watching our girls in Sex and The City. Except, when our birthday finally dawns on us and we start to look at our future and think about how quickly this age crept up on us and how quickly the next year will, too. What often crowds our minds at this age are our biological clocks. By 30 and continuing into our 40s, all we can hear is a faint, imaginary murmur from our anxious tubes: tick-tock, tick-tock. It's this "sound" that, according to new research from the University of Texas Austin, that drives us to "capitalize on our remaining childbearing years." In layman's terms, we have sex and lots of it.
As a young girl—ovaries yet to ripen and hymen still in intact—reading Judy Blume books were like porn for me … educational porn. These were the pre-internet days, before I could Google "funny feeling down there" or "penis, hard-on." All I had was my imagination and my canon of Judy Blume books to aid my highly curious pre-teen mind. They were a permanent Sharpie mark on my burgeoning deviant mind.
Let's face it: Judy Blume explained a lot of stuff our parents didn't. (Or did, but the conversation was so awkward you've never looked at your dad the same again.) Here are just a few sex lessons that got us through those awkward junior-high days straight from the books of Ms. Blume.