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Being the Best Sex He's Had Isn't About What You Do In Bed

Being the Best Sex He's Had Isn't About What You Do In Bed

If you want that man constantly thinkin' about how sexy you are, be the best tease he's ever known!

If you want to seduce your man, enchant him with your sexuality, and just downright be the best sex he's ever had, you gotta have two very important character traits: a silly spirit and a crude mind! My man and I have an amazing sex life, but I would be lying to you if I said that my magic spell over him was cast under the sheets. The way that I have made him a self-proclaimed addict who is hooked on our physical intimacy has everything to do with how I enchant him outside the bedroom. It has everything to do with how I tease him!

Should I Leave My Sexless Marriage? [VIDEO]
Does your marriage leave you sexually unsatisfied?

Should I Leave My Sexless Marriage? [VIDEO]

Have you and your spouse stopped having sex?

When you said your wedding vows, was there anything about a sex quota? Probably not. Still, if you and your husband have stopped having sex, you may wonder if that gives you the green light to leave him. In this video, psychologist, sex therapist and YourTango Expert Dr. Megan Fleming discusses what to do when sex with your spouse goes from regular to hardly ever.

Wanna Know How To Be His Dream Lover?

Wanna Know How To Be His Dream Lover?

If you want to know what really turns him on and makes sex with you memorable, read this!

I have this belief about men: I believe ALL men want nothing more than to be good providers. I think every single one of them deeply desires the ability to provide his partner with things like safety, financial security, loyalty, patience, kindness, understanding, and great sex. Yes, there are some men who don’t have confidence in their power to provide. (You see men like this today more than ever.) This lack of confidence makes many act controlling, jealous, arrogant, lazy, avoidant, childish, selfish, etc.

How To Keep Sex Fresh?

How Do You Keep Sex Fresh? [VIDEO]

Has your relationship become boring in the bedroom? Find out how to rekindle the excitement of sex!

After years of being with the same partner, sex can get pretty predictable. How can you revive the spark in your love life? What can you do to make sex feel all shiny and new? How To Recapture Romantic Intimacy In A Boring Relationship In this video, YourTango expert and relationship coach LiYana Silver gives suggestions to deepen your sexual connection in a long-term relationship. It's time you and your lover learned some new tricks!

Sex Ed Is A Parent's Job

Sex Ed Is A Parent's Job

Children are learning about sex from their schools, but their education isn't complete.

It seems the whole issue of sexual education causes angst for many parents. Some parents actually appreciate that the schools cover it, sparing them from embarking into such awkward discussion with their pre-teen. And then there are parents, particularly Christians, who are against what is taught in the schools about sex, yet simultaneously neglect initiation of discussions with their children at home. What a conundrum. We don't want the "system" telling them about sex and we don't want to do it either, leaving them few alternatives but to navigate the waters on their own. Is it any wonder so many teens are having sex?

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1 In 4 Americans Are Too Tired For Sex

It seems one out of four Americans are too tired to have sex and would rather sleep.

Sigh. It's been another long day and your feet hurt. By the time the TV is off, the dishes are washed, and you've donned a pair of baggy sweatpants, the only thing on your mind is making love. To your pillow, that is. Well, we know the feeling, and according to a recent study by the National Sleep Foundation one in four Americans who are married or living with someone do too. Yes, that's right; nearly 25 percent of the population is so sleep-deprived that they frequently find themselves skimping on sex in favor of slumber. What a shame. The Sleep In America poll focused on the differences in sleep habbits between ethnic groups. It sampled 1,007 adults aged 25-60, and respondents across the board confessed to frequently feeling too tired for sex. (21 - 26 percent of the time). Not Tonight: What's Behing Your Lackluster Libido What this really means is that we are a country of over-worked, over-tired, insomniacs who might as well sleep in twin beds. But that doesn't have to be the case! Your bed need not be forming icicles. With a few tweaks to your schedule, as well as your mind-set, you can have that queen bed rockin' once more!

You Might Need A "Marriage Checkup"

You Might Need A "Marriage Checkup"

To improve your marriage see a therapist or kick out your kids!

Today we bring you two studies about marital satisfaction. It is, in fact, possible to have a happy marriage! Read on to find out how… An ongoing study by the National Institutes of Health suggests that a yearly "marriage checkup" could help people's unions—and bodies—stay healthy. Another way to improve a marriage? Kick out the kids! According to a UC Berkley study, women see improvements in their marriages after their children have moved out of the house.

No Sex Before Marriage? He Made Her Wait

No Sex Before Marriage? He Made Her Wait

To honor her husband-to-be, one woman stays chaste before her wedding.

A Q&A session with a woman who embraced chastity for her future husband and learned a lot about sexuality along the way.

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Infusing Fantasy Into Your Sex Life

Act out fantasies together because imagination enhances our sex lives.

Some couples play dress-up even when it’s not Halloween; imagining different people and scenarios while making love can invigorate your sex life—or it can make you feel a little creepy. How do you get the best from your fantasies? Here’s a guide to navigating your sexual imaginations. "From picturing the hottie in Accounts Payable naked, to role-playing, to thinking about other people or circumstances while masturbating or having sex, people often use fantasies to augment their lovemaking. In fact, there are women who can achieve orgasm merely by conjuring that philanthropist/mailman/pool boy/plumber in their heads. (Seriously. And they're being studied.) Even if you're not blessed with that ability, research has shown that women's orgasms are in some ways more tied to mental gymnastics than to anything that's happening in the physical world. 'In women, the vast majority of sex is going on in their minds,' explains Dr. Anita H. Clayton, a professor in the Department of Psychiatric Medicine at the University of Virginia and author of an upcoming book about the relationship between sex and the psyche. 'So we can be easily distracted or shift into another set of feelings very quickly.'"