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Can’t Consummate Your Marriage? Maybe It’s Vaginismus
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Can’t Consummate Your Marriage? Maybe It’s Vaginismus

Vaginismus might be one of the most puzzling, frustrating sexual conditions that psychologists treat.  Since The Buehler Institute specializes in sex therapy, about 10-20% of our clients at any one time are women and partners affected by this condition, which makes penetrative sex of any kind painful or even impossible.  Many people who call the Institute for help actually have no idea that there is even a name for this.  But vaginismus (va-jah-NIZ-mes) is definitely known by anyone who treats sexual concerns.

Married Sex:  The Best of Your Life
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Married Sex: The Best of Your Life

Married sex can the best sex of your life because you are making love to your soul mate and not just any person. Let's face it, sex is very important in any marital relationship. As newlyweds, we may crave sex because of the physical pleasure that it brings us, but as you progress through the years in your marriage you may find that making love is more emotionally fulfilling than anything else. 

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Taking time to put your sex life first, will benefit your family as a whole.
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An Ode To Hot, Married Sex

Finding the time, inclination, and desire to have sex, and then actually having sex takes effort in most long-term relationships with children.

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Does your marriage leave you sexually unsatisfied?
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Sex Video: Should I Leave My Sexless Marriage?

When you said your wedding vows, was there anything about a sex quota? Probably not. Still, if you and your husband have stopped having sex, you may wonder if that gives you the green light to leave him. Help! My Husband Won't Stop Badgering Me For Sex In this instructional sex video, psychologist, sex therapist and YourTango Expert Dr. Megan Fleming discusses what to do when sex with your spouse goes from regular to hardly ever.

Wanna Know How To Be His Dream Lover?
Experts Blog

Wanna Know How To Be His Dream Lover?

I have this belief about men: I believe ALL men want nothing more than to be good providers. I think every single one of them deeply desires the ability to provide his partner with things like safety, financial security, loyalty, patience, kindness, understanding, and great sex. Yes, there are some men who don’t have confidence in their power to provide. (You see men like this today more than ever.) This lack of confidence makes many act controlling, jealous, arrogant, lazy, avoidant, childish, selfish, etc.

Sex Ed Is A Parent's Job
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Sex Ed Is A Parent's Job

It seems the whole issue of sexual education causes angst for many parents. Some parents actually appreciate that the schools cover it, sparing them from embarking into such awkward discussion with their pre-teen. And then there are parents, particularly Christians, who are against what is taught in the schools about sex, yet simultaneously neglect initiation of discussions with their children at home. What a conundrum. We don't want the "system" telling them about sex and we don't want to do it either, leaving them few alternatives but to navigate the waters on their own. Is it any wonder so many teens are having sex?

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1 In 4 Americans Are Too Tired For Sex

Sigh. It's been another long day and your feet hurt. By the time the TV is off, the dishes are washed, and you've donned a pair of baggy sweatpants, the only thing on your mind is making love. To your pillow, that is. Well, we know the feeling, and according to a recent study by the National Sleep Foundation one in four Americans who are married or living with someone do too. Yes, that's right; nearly 25 percent of the population is so sleep-deprived that they frequently find themselves skimping on sex in favor of slumber. What a shame. The Sleep In America poll focused on the differences in sleep habbits between ethnic groups. It sampled 1,007 adults aged 25-60, and respondents across the board confessed to frequently feeling too tired for sex. (21 - 26 percent of the time). Not Tonight: What's Behing Your Lackluster Libido What this really means is that we are a country of over-worked, over-tired, insomniacs who might as well sleep in twin beds. But that doesn't have to be the case! Your bed need not be forming icicles. With a few tweaks to your schedule, as well as your mind-set, you can have that queen bed rockin' once more!

You Might Need A "Marriage Checkup"
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You Might Need A "Marriage Checkup"

Today we bring you two studies about marital satisfaction. It is, in fact, possible to have a happy marriage! Read on to find out how… An ongoing study by the National Institutes of Health suggests that a yearly "marriage checkup" could help people's unions—and bodies—stay healthy. Another way to improve a marriage? Kick out the kids! According to a UC Berkley study, women see improvements in their marriages after their children have moved out of the house.