How do I know if I'm addicted to sex?
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How do I know if I'm addicted to sex?

Ever wondered if you might be addicted to sex?  Here's a quick test developed by Patrick Carnes: P: PREOCCUPIED – Do you find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts? A: ASHAMED – Do you hide some of your sexual behavior from others? T: TREATMENT – Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you didn’t like? H: HURT OTHERS – Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior? O: OUT OF CONTROL – Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?

Let's Talk About Sex (Addiction)
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Let's Talk About Sex (Addiction)

Scenario #1: You’ve barely been married a month. You can’t keep your hands off of your significant other and vice versa. You (ahem) want to be with him/her night and day every day. Anywhere, anytime is your motto. You two have even been caught in an elevator, doing Aerosmith proud.    

Help! I Want My Spouse Back. 10 Ways To Engage Your Spouse
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Help! I Want My Spouse Back. 10 Ways To Engage Your Spouse

Have you ever asked yourself what is happening when your spouse is online and you can't seem to get their attention no matter what you say or do? Maybe they are spending large amounts of time looking at the news, playing video games, facebooking, responding to twitter friend posts, viewing pornography or chatting in adult chat rooms. Has your spouse reconnected with an old high school girlfriend? Do you wonder if you are too trusting or too jealous? Have you ever wondered what is appropriate and what crosses the line to inappropriate behavior in your relationship?

Should Women Talk Trash During Sex?
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Should Women Talk Trash During Sex?

Hell yes! Believe it or not, the woman is in control and it is she who dictates the energy. It’s unbelievable, but it is true! Understanding this fact and learning how to use it to your advantage can dramatically improve your sex life and your partner’s sexual enjoyment. A woman can make a man feel like King Kong or ding dong depending on what she says to him in bed. Why do you think men go to strip clubs? Strippers have perfected the art of telling men what they want to hear.

9 Facts You Need To Know About Sex Addiction [EXPERT]
There are many reasons why people lose control of their sexual behaviors.
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9 Facts You Need To Know About Sex Addiction

While some people are inappropriately labeled "sex addicts" — providing a blanket excuse for all kinds of irresponsible sexual behavior — others truly suffer from uncontrollable sexual impulses, or sex addiction. The main symptoms of sex addiction include a loss of control, failed attempts to stop unwanted sexual behavior, and a pattern of negative consequences from anxiety to depression and legal problems. Here are some facts about sex addiction you may not know.

How Much Porn Is Too Much Porn? [EXPERT]
How much is too much?
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How Much Porn Is Too Much Porn?

Until 1994, if you wanted to view pornography, you had to get dressed, get in your car, drive to a seedy shop in a bad part of town and fork over hard-earned cash for an overpriced magazine ... all the while hoping not to be seen by the neighbor's teenage kid, your boss, the police or your spouse. Today, thanks to streaming video over the Internet and smart-phones, finding porn doesn't even require getting out of bed.

John Edwards with his children Emma Claire and Jack at Elizabeth Edwards' funera
John Edwards with his children Emma Claire and Jack at Elizabeth Edwards' funeral in 2011.
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Is John Edwards A Sex Addict?

Local New York City news blog DNA Info reported today that former presidential candidate and North Carolina Senator John Edwards was patronizing prostitutes in 2007 — namely a call girl working for the so-called "Soccer Mom Madam" or "Millionaire Madam" on NYC's Upper East Side.

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Sex addicts can never can get enough of what won't satisfy them.
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Is Sex Addiction Just A Myth?

Sex addiction. Each word evokes complex thoughts, images, and responses. Put the two together and there is the possibility for controversy and confusion. Is sex addiction real, or is it just the latest cop-out for bad behavior?

3 Ways To Avoid Sex Addiction Relapse
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3 Ways To Avoid Sex Addiction Relapse

Did you know that according to Patrick Carnes, Sex Addiction Expert, he reports that relapse happens for most individuals who struggle with sex addiction in the second six months of recovery? Most individuals gain traction in recovery through counseling, support groups and establishing strong boundaries. It is very important that individuals who struggle with sex addiction stay proactive in their recovery and the journey to having healthy and satisfying relationships. These are three effective ways to avoid relapse in a

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My Husband Was Addicted To Porn; What If He Relapses?
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Sex Video: My Husband Was Addicted To Porn

In this video, Relationship Expert and YourTango Expert Janie Lacy helps a reader whose husband struggled with an addiction to porn and sex in the past. Now that he's recovered, she's nervous that one day he may resort back to his old habits. She's also concerned that this addiction will be passed down to their son.

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There is much more to beauty than what is on the outside!
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Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Models & Your Self Esteem

Each year when the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue is released I hear about it. Not because I'm a big fan of swimsuits, or super models, or even of sports for that matter, but because my therapist husband (as a recovering sex addict) specializes in helping men whose sexual behaviors have become self-defeating in ways that are interfering with day-to-day living—causing stress on family members, friends and/or work. These guys have issues around sexualizing and objectifying women so they can tend to have more than just a passing awareness of the winter release of that swimsuit model issue.

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Really?! Amy Poehler and Seth Meyers on SNL.
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Love Bytes: Really?! Birth Control Argument Hits SNL

What shouldn't you eat on a first date? First-date karaoke: Do or don't? What if your gynecologist sold you sex toys? Most women wouldn't cheat... except with an ex. No one should have access to birth control? Really?! Sex addiction, real or fake? Did Bill Clinton shut off his sexuality? How to flirt on Twitter. How to send a picture of your parts to someone. Five reasons you're not having sex. Mixed marriages are on the up and up. How to end a relationship that's just treading water.

Is Monogamy Natural?
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Is Monogamy Natural?

I was watching a video done by Shanel Cooper-Sykes about a controversial topic that suggest that we as humans were not created by God to be monogamous even though in the Bible we are commanded not to commit adultery. This is an old theory that has been expressed across many panels and groups of relationship advisors (mainly men) who believe that the natural sexual drive of a man makes resisting the temptation to sleep with or love more tha