When I was a sophomore in college, I started seeing a counselor re: my daddy issues. Up until that first appointment, I had been making it a point to only get involved with guys who made it easy for me to control the situation — so that they wouldn't up and leave me the way my dad left my mom and I when they got divorced. I thought, "If my own father can hurt me, you will, too."
Today, HowAboutWe explored whether celebs' short courtships could be the reason for their short marriages. Indie sweethearts Zooey Deschanel and Ben Gibbard, who just announced their separation, only dated for a year before their two-year marriage. Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries? Six months.
I see a great many couples in my private practice. Lately, there seems to be a theme: couples who have been together or married for many years, who have "grown apart." This feeling is usually expressed by one partner, while the other is caught somewhat off-guard, not realizing things have gotten as bad as they are until the unhappy partner suggests a separation, divorce, or counseling. The expression of incredulity on my clients' faces shows that they really don't understand how their partner could be ready to walk out. The unhappy partner, on the other hand, doesn't understand why their mate is so slow to realize how unhappy they have been. How does this happen? How is it that each partner's experience of the relationship is so different?
Believe what you hear, divorce is hard. Actually, that's an understatement. Divorce is devastating. Other than perhaps the death of a family member, the severing of what was expected to be a lifelong union is about as emotionally crippling as any life as experience an individual will ever survive. I speak from experience. Multiply that agony by ten if there are children involved. Even when the divorce is amicable, as mine was over a decade ago, the massive weight of the realization that the world you had built with your soon-to-be-ex and the end of your journey with a person who at some point was the closest person in the world to you is downright smothering. It's an awful, soul-crushing rollercoaster and every time someone sarcastically remarks how easy it is for people to get divorced or how so-and-so "just left their marriage," my head feels like it's about to explode. If you honestly believe that, you've never been through a divorce.
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett are being forced to address the rumors swirling about their marriage. An unnamed source close to the couple told TMZ that the pair have decided to take a family vacation with their children before finalizing their plans, but the prospect of a divorce sometime in the near future is "definitely a possibility."
If you're divorcing your husband—the first one or from a subsequent marriage—or even if you're breaking up a non-marital domestic partnership, you still may be facing a custody issue…of your pet or pets. But Fido is a family member, not a mere possession.
When my husband of almost four years asked me if I thought we should divorce, I opened my laptop, pulled up my GQueues account and drew up a to-do list. I titled it My Crumbling Marriage, and tried to get to the bottom of things. Did we still love each other? Did we still want the same things? Why were we so unhappy lately?
Jane Seymour must think she has a finger on the pulse of this whole Arnold-Schwarzenegger-love-child story, because she's telling reporters she wasn't surprised at all by Arnold and Maria's split. And what's more? She's pretty sure the ex-Cali governor has more secrets. Many more. And the media will be figuring it all out pretty soon.
Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver were together for over 25 years—an eternity by Hollywood standards. But how many of those years did he spend cheating on his wife? And how many total women was he with during their marriage? When all is said and done, this might turn out to be a Tiger-esque list.
No more are the days when friends end relationship by telephone or writing a note. Imagine sitting at your computer screen and getting an instant message (IM) from your best friend forever (BFF). This is the person who you have shared secrets, spoke about your dreams and expected to grow old together. Sounds like a spouse?
After 25 years of marriage, Maria Shriver separates from California's ex-governor Arnold Schwarzenegger leaving their Los Angeles manson. According to TMZ's website it sited one reason for the couples split was because the former First Lady felt unappreciated in their relationship.
Maria Shriver recently asked a question on YouTube: What are three things you wished you’d known during your last transition? As she navigates her newly announced separation from Arnold Schwarzenegger, here are the three things I think will be most helpful to her... and things I wished I’d known during my own separation. Arnold Schwarzenegger & Maria Shriver Split After 25 Years
Not every princess gets a fairy tale ending. It turns out Olivia Wilde's marriage wasn't built to last forever. The 'House' actress has split from her husband of eight years, Italian prince Tao Ruspoli. Wilde met the filmmaker in 2003 at the age of 18 and they eloped six months later.
Former Proposal co-stars Ryan Reynolds and Sandra Bullock were seen ringing in the new year at Bess Bistro in Austin, Texas,according to UsMagazine.com. Sources said the two looked “very playful” and were “smiling all the time and sometimes touching.” Reynolds, who filed for divorce from Scarlett Johannson at the end of last year after a two-year marriage, and Bullock, who’s been divorced from Jesse James since last June, may be bonding over their breakups.
The news that Courteney Cox and David Arquette were separating after 11 years of marriage sent ripples of distress throughout America's tabloid-reading community and beyond. "Really?" thought many, surprised by their own personal sadness over public figures' private lives. For whatever reason, the dissolution of this marriage hit home for many Americans. Perhaps it's because—despite the celebrity characters—the story is infinitely relatable.