Since when is divorce a group effort? It's a deeply personal choice, and comments from the peanut gallery should be taken with a grain of salt. At the end of the day, listen to this divorce coach advice: your own happiness is what you make of it.
Although women tend to suffer more money-wise after a divorce, a new study reveals that men are the ones who are less able to deal with the situation.
Have you ever heard someone say that instead of working things out a couple is taking the easy road by deciding to separate and divorce? I have and all I can say to those ignorant people is “Seriously? You have no idea what it takes to get divorced.” Making the decision that a relationship in which you’ve invested YEARS of your life is better off ending than continuing is FAR from easy. In fact, it’s usually gut wrenching. Although there are the extremely rare people who enter into a marriage with the intent that it end
Many of you are sending your kids off to college soon, and maybe for the first time. I've been there, twice. And now my daughter lives overseas! Most of the time I'm okay with it... you get used to it, you know? But sometimes when she sends me little notes, or we chat on Skype, I miss her again.
Your heart is pounding, it’s racing. Your mind is mush. It’s hard to think. Taking a deep breath, you try not to cry or show any emotion. There is a slight tremor in your hand. You feel like crap and are worried you look like crap. The internal dialogue goes: “Oh please dear God don’t let me cry in front of him! Breathe, just breathe. What if I start crying! I don’t want to cry! I hope he doesn’t look good. Maybe I’ll see him and feel nothing. OK, my coach said just look him in the eye and ask how his trip was. I just have to remember the words.
It's happened to so many people. They find the one they think think they're destined to spend the rest of their lives with. The relationshhip seems perfect until it seems to all go south. How did it happen? Why did it happen? And can you save the relationship? Our expert reveals 5 ways to save the relationship before it's too late.
When we are going through the end of a relationship and contemplating separation or divorce, it's easy to relate to the winter darkness. It feels like walking through a long, dark tunnel. There are only occasional rays of light and they don't seem to last long enough. At times, we may believe that we will never find our way through.
The traditions, the families, the expectations, the disappointments. If you are facing your first (or second, or … ) holiday season after a separation or divorce, all of these challenges get magnified — and the joy can often seem elusive.
So, what is it? Have you been Naughty or Nice this year? The journey of divorce will undoubtedly bring out our Naughty, Nice and everything in between sides. As I reflect back on my year, although I am Jewish and Santa doesn’t exist in my world, I am careful to be honest about whether or not I have been naughty…or nice. The first year or two after divorce, the pull towards Naughty was really strong.
Breaking up, separating or divorcing is devastating at any time of the year but can feels especially horrible when it happens during the holiday season. This time of year is filled with images of happy families and joyful, loving couples exchanging meaningful gifts and sharing loving moments. The juxtaposition of these images and your reality is jarring. There is also the expectation for you to attend all the holiday events and join in the celebrations. All of this can leave you feeling overwhelmed and exhausted.
Divorce means big change. It's a big deal; income, health insurance, homes — spouses come with a whole slew of things.
As mentioned in a previous article, the duration of separation is lengthy, averaging over three years. In working with our clients, we’ve found that that the major reason for the man to delay filing for divorce is fear of loss; the emotional connection with your spouse, not seeing your kids every day, and a big decrease in your finances.
I’ve been working with women in all stages of divorce for a long time now, and regardless of whether she was aware of it or not, every woman deep down inside knew that her marriage was in trouble before the divorce ever became a reality. My guess is that men experience the same thing.
“Why,” you may ask, “should I want to maintain a good relationship with my ex? We are splitting up. We don’t like each other. In fact, I am so angry that I can’t even imagine a “good” relationship. What does that even look like??” Here’s why: if you have a child together you will be seeing each other forever and though it may be hard to imagine today, you may also have grandchildren in common some day.