Don't jump immediately into being friends after a break-up. If you do, you could damage yourself.
BY Hope Kumor
So, you hear those heart-wrecking words, "Let's break-up." But, it's mutual. Despite this fact, it's still excruciatingly painful on both parties. You decide to stay friends. In fact, you pretend like nothing has changed as you plan to see one another the day after. You want to make the situation as easy and simple as possible. You want the transition to go smoothly and not be awkward. The next morning, he is supposed to come over around 1:00 pm. You cry that morning because you finally realize it's over.
Read these 10 tell tale signs to tell if your marriage is heading in the wrong direction.
1. Lack of communication - One of the biggest challenges most couples face is poor communication or lack of communication. If one or both partners in the relationship do not communicate their challenges and concerns, this is usually a sign that you're heading down the wrong path.
"Our babymaking difficulties almost drove us apart."
We almost broke up trying to get pregnant, but now we're willing to try anything to have a baby.
After one-and-a-half years of fruitless (and awkward) babymaking sex, we had decided it was time to move forward with Plan B and seek out fertility testing. It was a big step. After all, not so long ago, we had been on the brink of separation, in part because of our frustrated efforts at procreation.
1. Learn to self-soothe: It's really a combination of relaxation (some meditation), affirmations, positive self-talk and telling yourself that what you’re PERCEIVING is not necessarily how it is and, even if it is, you can survive it. Believe me, you will believe it after a while. Because the bottom line is: if you want to be okay, you will be.
A man was charged with eavesdropping on his wife's sex life.
The husband was tired of overhearing his wife's sex sessions with other men.
Police have charged a Pennsylvania man with hiding a remote listening device under his estranged wife's bed that he said he used to avoid overhearing her sex life in the house they still shared.
Couples therapy? COUPLES THERAPY! (Remember this movie?)
Staying married for a long time isn't easy, but neither is couples therapy.
If there's one thing those of us who have been married for a while know, it's that staying married over the long haul ain't always easy. Thank goodness for couples therapy, right? Or ... not? An article in The New York Times this weekend kind of blew apart the notion I had of couples counseling being the THE ANSWER.
Tips on how to make January a fresh start for your relationship.
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January is the busiest month of the year for divorce proceedings to be started.
Why the New Year?
Does Katy Perry and Russell Brand's divorce show that lifetime commitment is simply outdated?
Today we learned that another celebrity marriage is ending; Katy Perry & Russell Brand will be filing for divorce. It's big news because they're young and famous, because the marriage only lasted 14 months and because they always seemed an unlikely couple. But marriages are ending every day among us, especially as the new year begins. As someone who's never been married, it makes me wonder. Do people get so caught up in the whirlwind romance that they don't think about the idea of lifetime commitment? Or do they go into the marriage thinking, "I hope this works, but good thing for 'irreconcilable differences' in California"?
Extend a helping hand. Your friend will never forget your love and support!
Learn how to be a good friend at a time when a new divorcee needs you most.
For many people, separating from a life-partner is the single most tragic and painful event of their lives. Recovering from such a blow is rarely an easy or pleasant process. Watching a close friend go through the divorce process presents its own set of problems. You want to help, but it can be extremely difficult to approach your friend—an individual with whom you are accustomed to sharing considerably happier times—in this period of profound anger, sorrow, and/or uncertainty.
"OMG. Do you think I'll get divorced, too?" Divorce is not contagious like the flu, dummy.
People say the most ignorant, insensitive things to recently-divorced women.
I won't go into the dirty details, but trust me when I say that my divorce was the saddest and most painful thing that's ever happened to me. What made it worse? The really dumb things that people would say when I told them my husband and I were no longer together.
Your relationships with your parents have a huge impact on your love life.
Unhappy families lead to more unhappy families -- but you can put a stop to it.
When I was a sophomore in college, I started seeing a counselor re: my daddy issues. Up until that first appointment, I had been making it a point to only get involved with guys who made it easy for me to control the situation — so that they wouldn't up and leave me the way my dad left my mom and I when they got divorced. I thought, "If my own father can hurt me, you will, too."
