The more you judge your partner, the less you’re able to love him.
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” - Mother Teresa
What you judge in your partner is also in you
Have you found yourself trying to change your partner? Trying to control him? Thinking you’re right and he’s wrong? If so, these are forms of judging. Judging implies that something is wrong with him, that he’s not good enough. It’s easy to fall into the habit of judging the people closest to us, especially our partner.
I am with a man who used to be very passionate and loved to make love to me and now he doesn't make love to me at all and its been this way for a couple of years now. He is 9 years older than me and I am 56. I am very attraction, sexually appealing, so men tell me, and have a positive attitude and am very kind and understanding. We don't even sleep in the same bed anymore. He says he loves me and we will be together forever and he's a nice man and is respectful but I miss the passion that was once there.
I knew it was a mistake, but the invitations were already out. What's a would-be bride to do?
Cancelling our wedding plans would mean hassle, embarrassment, and disappointing grandma: I just couldn’t call it off. Ryan’s the right guy for me; I’ve never doubted that. But what do you do when marrying the right guy means living the wrong life?
When my husband requested a trial separation, I knew I needed to save our marriage.
When my husband of almost four years asked me if I thought we should divorce, I opened my laptop, pulled up my GQueues account and drew up a to-do list. I titled it My Crumbling Marriage, and tried to get to the bottom of things. Did we still love each other? Did we still want the same things? Why were we so unhappy lately?
When does a marriage become impossible? Are there certain problems that are impossible to overcome?
The only time I believe in giving up on a marriage is when one of them dies, or if after their divorce one of them marries someone else, or if one of them continues involvement in an activity that makes the marriage impossible. Otherwise, I believe there is a chance to reconcile.
The first two – death or one of them marrying someone else – are obvious. Allow me to briefly explain the third.
A pastor in Switzerland has opened a shelter for newly separated or divorced fathers.
Thanks to a benevolent pastor's pilot project, newly-separated fathers living in Switzerland can have temporary shelter and a safe haven to recover from the trauma of their divorce. The shelter, which was opened by Andreas Cabalzar in late 2009, can house up to three fathers at a time. Cabalzar also designated two bedrooms for children of guests, who pay the equivalent of $166 per week to stay.
We're just as stumped as you are, but here are 4 theories about the Gore divorce.
Al and Tipper Gore were Washington's fairytale couple—especially when they stood next to the Clintons.
The high-school sweethearts stuck together through the rearing of four children, Al's eight tumultuous years as Vice President, and through his devastating loss to George W. Bush in the 2000 presidential election.
Luckily it seemed that things had gotten better for them in recent years—heck, Al won a Nobel Peace Prize in 2007! And who can forget the famous kiss at the 2000 Democratic Convention? Yes, we admit it was a bit painful to witness, but before the Age of Obama, a glimpse into a happy, loving, political couple was such a breath of fresh air. "Wow," we all thought to ourselves, "if they're still happily married, there must be some hope for me!"
But then, after 40 years of marriage the Gore's pulled the rug out from us all by announcing their separation. They didn't divulge much, saying only that the separation was "a mutual and mutually supportive decision".
Well, like the rest of the country, the lack of information has driven us to speculation. The following are our best theories as to what may have caused the split.
How to keep the children in mind when you're reconciling.
Many couples decide to get back together after a long or short period following separation or divorce. While reuniting is exciting, it is also stressful.
Many thoughts enter the couple's mind: Will it last this time? Will it turn sour again when we are living together? Does my partner think about the other lovers? Will he/she abandon me again? How will our extended family and friends react? Sorting through this emotional turmoil is hard enough; but when children are involved, it's a whole different ballgame. The primary concern for these couples is: How will this affect our children? Read on for tips.
Kim Kardashian says she may reunite with her now ex-beau Reggie Bush.
Here's to being optimistic. Bossip talked to the sex-tape-making, reality-show-starring Kim Kardashian and she believes she and NFL player Reggie Bush are going to get back together. Kardashian continues to say it was their work schedules and not a relationship between Bush and Vanessa Minnillo that broke up the couple.
The newly reconciled couple are spending some much needed quality time together in Australia.
Pink and motocross racer Carey Hart have called the divorce proceedings off and are back to dating bliss. Pink and Carey have headed down under for the next 14 weeks together. According to People, Pink is in Australia on tour so Carey coordinated his own performance schedule so they can be in the same cities at the same time. "It took us seven years to work it out," Pink says. "We got married and I went on the road for two years. That's about as long as we were married. It's definitely hard."
Chris Kattan has separated and are Owen and Kate reconciling?
That was fast. After 8 weeks of marriage, Chris Kattan is taking a break. Speaking of breaks, have Owen Wilson and Kate Hudson just been 'taking a break?"