Sometimes, when relationships end, we feel a source of emptiness in our hearts. As if a death has occurred, we may even feel that we have lost a part of ourselves. This feeling is real and needs to be addressed in a positive way! When your heart is broken, your whole identity may feel shattered. You may feel you are no longer alive. But that is not the case. A breakup is like a broken mirror. It is better to leave it broken than hurt yourself trying to fix it. It may be time to move on, and reclaim your life.
At one point or another we have been in a relationship or in love with a man who wasn’t quite feeling the same way in return. His friends or family would come around only for him to introduce you as his “friend” Tracey or Keisha or what ever your name happens to be. Although you two may be having sex, you never get the title of “girlfriend” no matter how hard you try to win his heart over and prove that you are the perfect girl for him.
This intriguing trifecta – sex, food and money, are three of the most sought-after pleasures life has to offer. Yet, we’ve all suffered the extremes of having too much of a good thing – when longing becomes lust and increasing stress and anxiety are the result of obsession. There are warning signs if we choose to listen, whether they are nagging little thoughts at the outer regions or outrageous behaviors that become hard to ignore. These warning signs indicate perhaps seeking help is a good idea, around about – now.
Sometimes people are try to force their partners to be exactly what they want them to be. When they do this, they are continually disappointed in the results. They feel wronged by the other person because they aren't getting what they need. Sometimes they don't ask for what they need and then pout and sit around like a victim when they don't get it.
This is the first in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. This was the topic of my free telecall this week and of my upcoming 8-part telecourse starting October 17. A single man I know once said, "If a woman doesn't seem to love herself, why should I love her?" That makes sense. Keep in mind that: • The way you treat yourself is how others will treat you. • What you expect from people is what you will receive.
One of the most important steps on any Dignity Dater's journey is setting appropriate boundaries. For those of you who have that covered, keep in mind that I'm not just speaking about telling a guy "no" when it comes to sex or asking that he be on time. I'm talking about the types of boundaries that set your stomach a-twitter simply by envisioning the conversation in which you have to say "no," face the retaliation, see the look of dismay or have the argument that ensues once you draw the line.
I need you! I want you! I cannot live without you! Do these words really express the feeling of love? Mistaking a need for a warm body next to you for love often makes it impossible to experience the state of love, a feeling of merging and melting, a sense of belonging, a sensation of being one.
I was thinking about the plight and sadness of the 'default woman' today. Then I thought to compose a definition. DEFAULT WOMAN A default woman prides herself in the depth of her love and the strength of her commitment to the man of her dreams, although her position is consistently ‘backseat’ and ’second best.’ She is the woman who is always available when there is nothing better.
We each attract a certain type of man, depending on how we carry ourselves. Don't expect to have a respectful man if you, for instance, curse like a sailor. Such behavior always reflects more negatively upon you than it does to those you're cursing. As for other important aspects of your life, if you don't have any goals, principles, power, or worth, then what makes you believe you can attract a man who has any of those qualities? You are what you attract, whether you like it or not. Contrary to what you may believe, we are not designed to follow the lead of men. They are made to follow us, at least when it comes to male and female relations.
Back when you were a kid your mom probably told you "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all," and that Santa was checking his list twice to find out "who's naughty and nice." Now that we're older we know good from bad, but we also know we'd rather tell the truth than hide it. Ole St. Nick never had to deal with an oversexed coworker up on his Mrs. every time he turned his back during the annual Christmas party, so we think it's time to redefine the rules. Read on to fine out when "naughty" is actually "nice" this holiday season.