Ah, Valentine’s Day. It’s a holiday celebrating love, but if you’re single or going through a break up or divorce, it can feel like just another painful reminder of your relationship status and focus you on what you don’t have. Now here is the deal, we at inTact Coaching, believe that there is a flip side to lack and that is to have. So let’s see how Valentine’s day can be a celebration of what you do have.
Did you grow up believing that if only someone REALLY loved you in the way you needed to be loved, then you would feel happy, safe, lovable and worthy? Certainly being truly loved by parents goes a long way toward supporting children in feeling safe and lovable, but it is not the whole story.
When I first met my now husband Noah, who I affectionately refer to as “Walking Love” for his great ability to give love fully and freely, my love quotient – my capacity for receiving love -- was the size of a pea. Which meant that although I had finally manifested a man into my life that could offer the love that I had yearned for in other relationships, I was unable to let all the love in. At times, he and his love were so much to take in, that my stunted capacity to receive love would become completely overloaded.
Have you ever been skeptical of a compliment? Have you ever compared yourself to other woman and felt inadequate? Do you often think you're not "good enough"? If this sounds like you, it's time for you to stop betting against yourself and come face to face with your biggest enemy...Yourself! Goodbye to those days when you berated yourself for having curves. Goodbye to those days when you ate your emotions with pizza and cake.
Not sure who you are? If you are a Yes to many of these questions then be assured that you are a people pleaser who may want to read on . . . • Do you know what you really love and need? • Are you afraid of having a conflict and losing your connection and being alone? • Do you feel you are “not enough and need to pretend to be someone you are not?” • Does negative feedback devastate you?
Maintaining an active, healthy lifestyle is not only important for your body, but for your soul, as well. Below are ten simple steps that will get you the lean, sleek and energetic body you crave and will keep you nourished and happy.
Here's how I changed my entire existence in one day and with one thought: I decided and chose to be happy. Please don't read this or write this off as being sappy. I am absolutely 100% serious about how easy it can be to choose happiness if you're willing to give it a try.
We're women. We're famous for it. We hide our power, give it away, put ourselves down, hold ourselves back or we don't acknowledge our own real power. We don't always acknowledge our power to shine, to make the most of our lives, to accept and to feel that we truly deserve the best life for ourselves.
'The Help.' What a moving and powerful film. If only each of us grew up with that mantra so that the lies of self-doubt and unworthiness would stop haunting us. In the movie, the main character, Aibileen (a black maid and nanny) would say the following words to the 4 year old child that she cared for every day: "You is kind, You is smart, You is important." In the movie, the mother would ignore her child and treat her badly. The little girl just loved Abaleen and told her that she was her real mom. She felt safe and loved in the arms of her caregiver.
It was September 2009 when a vibrant, yet voice-strained, Whitney Houston took the GMA stage to launch a promising and long awaited comeback. Surrounded by devoted listeners fighting to beat the heat with custom made Whitney Houston fans given out by GMA, Whitney's smile seemed to signify that perhaps she'd beaten the battle of alcohol and drug addiction that had been sadly shadowing this beautiful superstar's success. Believing she was ready to rise again, she shared her experiences with Oprah in 2009. Now less than three years later, Whitney is gone leaving us with the unforgettable light of her smile, the brilliance of her talent and our frustration over another unnecessary and tragic loss.
Life will always have its ups and downs. This is inevitable. And in this continuous change, in this unpredictability, life meets beauty in its entire dimension. Here is where I ask myself and I invite you to do the same: How am I dancing with life? Am I meeting life with a balanced and peaceful mind and an open heart, no matter what? Am I seeing that on my side of the fence the grass is pretty green too?
In recent years, much has been written and said about the current generation of young adults and your inflated sense of entitlement. You feel that the world should be handed to you on a silver platter and that your every desire should be accommodated and honored. You deserve every prize that life has to offer. And you’ve been told repeatedly that this entitlement mentality is a bad thing. I disagree.