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Middle School Memories Of Having Been Called A "Hooch" [EXPERT]

Middle School Memories Of Having Been Called A "Hooch" [EXPERT]

I struggled for decades to find my "inner sexy" after having survived bullying at 12 years old.

I’m 32 and I don’t know if I have ever fully recovered from seventh grade. When I graduated my beloved elementary school and went to a much bigger middle school across town, some of my old classmates also switched to the same middle school, one of whom was my sixth grade ex-boyfriend. We had a messy “separation” after I came back from summer camp and realized that he was no longer interested in knowing me anymore, no less holding my hand at the park and buying me beanie babies.

How To Get Rid Of Your Dating B.S. (Belief System)
He's just not that into you, because you're just not that into yourself.

How To Get Rid Of Your Dating B.S. (Belief System)

"He's just not that into you, because you're just not that into yourself."

Stop wasting your time on men who are encouraging the "B.S." The next time you meet a guy who doesn't give you exactly what you deserve, heed this advice: "The four-letter word for a man who doesn't call is N-E-X-T."

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4 Steps To The Ultimate Dating Makeover

A practical guide to rejuvenating your romantic life, from eHarmony.

Your romantic life is like a house — it needs careful maintenance if you want it to last and serve you well. Sometimes all that's required is a little soap and polish to put a shine back in your search for lasting love. Yet it's also possible that after years of neglect, or a poor design to begin with, a full-blown renovation will be necessary. If you suspect you fall into the latter category, fear not! Here is a four-step guide for getting the job done.

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Miss Representation: How The Media Messed Up Women's Self-Images

A new documentary airing tonight, Oct. 20, explores how the media inspires negative body images.

In Miss Representation, a new documentary airing tonight on OWN, Jennifer Seibel Newsom probes the distorted way the media portrays women—and how it affects girls. The director tells Jessica Bennett such depictions damage self-image.

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Can You Orgasm From Wearing High Heels?

The designer Christian Louboutin shares his "orgasmic high heel" theory, i.e. ploy to sell shoes.

Citing no scientific basis for his statements, iconic shoe designer Christian Louboutin recently said: "What is sexual in a high heel is the arch of the foot, because it is exactly the position of a woman's foot when she orgasms."

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Love & Beauty: One-Third Of Obese Women Were Sexually Abused

Plus, why you shouldn't trust men who love big boobs, and why hairy armpits are sexy.

Obese women are more likely to be sexually abused. Promiscuous men like big-breasted women. Why hairy armpits can be sexy. Natural hair. Secret eating. More health benefits of chocolate. Giving back for Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

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My Beauty Is In The Eye Of The Beholder

One woman realizes that image is arbitrary, and true beauty is simply who she is.

When I turned 30, I was suddenly hot. Before then I was OK. Cute at best.

Do Men Have Body Image Hangups?

Do Men Have Body Image Hangups?

An intimate look at male body image from a guy’s point of view.

Women aren’t the only ones dissatisfied with their bodies. Studies show a growing trend toward negative body image and self esteem. A recent Harvard study shows that, eating disorders among men are on the rise across the country and this scary trend seems to be going under the radar, because men are less likely to talk about it. "I'm not the only man who wishes his body looked more like Michael Jordan's and less like a vat of pudding. A recent survey showed that only 18 percent of men are happy enough with their physiques that they wouldn't change them."

Study: Men May Affect Women’s Self-Image

Study seeks to establish link between what he says and how she feels.

A study is underway at an Australian university to figure out if a woman's self-esteem is best served by kind sentiments or just sentiments that she agrees with. There are many schools of thought on this. Some women only hear what they want to hear and some women are 'ravenous, blood-sucking monsters' for compliments.

She asks "How Do I Look?"

Christopher Dickey concludes men should answer the "look" question with care.

Is it best to just avoid answering the question that gets men into all kinds of trouble? Find out what women really want to hear.