Narcissists can be demanding, angry, and unforgiving, but they often hide these traits well. Check out these four hints from a relationship and dating coach to see if your partner is a narcissist.
SELF ESTEEM ISSUES
Do you fall in love with the same person over and over again? The name may change, but when the honeymoon ends you find yourself in the same old rut with the same problems you had before. Even if you have a PhD and tell yourself that you know better, there you go again. You can learn from your past if you are willing to look below the surface.
Mike Rice, the former coach of Rutgers University's men's basketball team, was fired for what some might describe as his 'tough love' form of coaching. But does this work as a parenting style? Does 'tough love' parenting raise responsible, well-behaved kids or does it simply emotionally cripple them?
I was posed a question which I find interesting. “Would you like to know if someone hit on me during the day?” Not in a “this is sexual harassment, I need you to beat this guy down,” kind of way, but in a “would something like that be too much information to share,” kind of way. The point of the question is essentially, “Are there some things we should not share within our relationship?”
Divorces always seem to come in one of two packages: slightly amicable or miserably dramatic. Most people prefer the latter, yet are unsure of exactly how to achieve it. With that in mind, here are a few, useful tips to make your divorce far more pleasant than you originally expected:
Ask yourself the following questions, and be totally honest with yourself: Does your self-talk sound like "I'm such a mess", or "why am I so insecure?", or other similarly self-deprecating statements? Do you think that someday you will meet a guy who will pull you out of the funk that you're in and make you happy?
Many people are attracted to individuals with ADD for their zany sense of humor, imagination, creativity, charm and “out of the box” thinking. But for many couples those attractive qualities can sometimes fade in the light of untreated ADD. I receive hundreds of calls and e mails from frustrated partners of individuals with ADD (POADD’s) asking if I could please work with their partner in assisting with the various aspects of ADD that are affecting the quality of their lives and relationships.
WOW! That really hurts. When you have great expectations of a long term relationship and lasting love, you feel good about yourself and confident in the future. Then you get the dreaded Dear John/Jane letter or the pink slip at work and immediately go from the heights of excitement to the depths of disappointment. Being dumped can change your life and confidence in an instant.
A recent Harvard Medical School study found that nearly 8% of adolescents experienced bouts of extreme anger, sufficient to be diagnosed as "intermittent explosive disorder" — a form of mental illness. I'm surprised the number isn't higher.
When I was 18 years old, I thought that losing weight would make my life perfect. That's one of the side effects of dieting and hating your body for so long—you begin to assume that thin people have perfect, happy lives and relationships to match their perfectly petite waistlines...
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The Numbers Are Staggering. In the United States alone, it estimated that 18.8 million people suffer from a depressive disorder in any given year. That translates into nearly 10% of the US population. Worldwide, that number is estimated at more than 120 million. According to the American Medical Association, more than twice as many women (estimated at 25% of the population) experience depression as men (estimated at 12%), regardless of racial background or financial status.
A man who is a user is truly not interested in you–only what you can offer. All his initial questions relate to your job, career and income status. Do you have a car? What kind of car is it? What year, make and model? Do you have kids? Who lives with you? These are all probing questions a man with a user mentality will ask, in order to see where he can fit in and take advantage of you.
Is there a line one crosses from healthy sexuality to sex addiction? If there is, where is the line. These questions are being asked by many people as more celebrities, elected officials, and religious leaders have claimed they are addicted to sex, and are seeking treatment. Is sex addiction just a excuse for the rich and famous to hide behind, or is there something to it?
Somewhere in this country, at this very moment, women are gathering at seminars where they’re urged to think differently about themselves; where their inner and outer beauty, intelligence, and grace is glorified; where they’re extolled to live their best lives, believe in themselves and grow. Our power as women is nurtured; we are inspired to arise and conquer old, out-dated moldy opinions of ourselves and blossom like orchards!
Should you stay or should you go? This is the perennial question in long term relationships that have gotten stale. It's the question that launched my business, Romance Recovery, and the one that prompted me to write my new book, The Soulmate Myth. (YourTango readers can go here to get a preview) It’s an important question, but in order to answer it with clarity, you have to ask yourself another important question first.