If you are in the process of divorcing, the grief can be overwhelming. So, what is the best way to deal with the seemingly never ending assaults? The answer may surprise you.
I remember the mental numbness the first time I heard the words. A wave of uncomfortable warmth swept through my body. Who I was, the world I knew, the future I saw was shattered like a picture window hit by a large rock. The words were: “I want a divorce”. That was 2006. Since that time, I’ve pursued a path of spirituality. Not because of the divorce, rather because of one of my person values – evolution. As I look back and reflect upon my divorce, I now know that my divorce was a blessing.
October 11th is National Coming Out Day, when many members of the LGBT community and its allies share their stories with the world in hopes of helping those who are struggling with gender identity issues.
The #1 Key to Attracting an Amazing Relationship There are a myriad of ways to get ourselves out there to attract a good mate into our lives. The 21st Century has afforded almost every way possible to mingle with the opposite sex. If you are socially active, you can make sure that you are out and about every chance you get and can strategize which locations and functions best match the values of the person you are seeking.
This week, I was introduced to a little show called "Here Comes Honey Boo Boo." I have heard people joke and make fun of the show but I had never taken time out to pay it any attention. Just hearing the title made me curious enough to ask: What the hell is a "Honey Boo Boo"?
On Thursday night, I ran out after a speaking gig and hopped on a plane to meet one of my best friends in Paris. YES, I went to Paris for the weekend! And it was absolutely FABULOUS! This wasn’t my first time in Paris, and I couldn’t help but notice that the city is so freaking romantic and love is in the air constantly. The architecture of the city is so breath taking, and somehow everything felt SO MUCH slower there. I guess any city would feel slower than NYC!
In coaching successful women who excel in their careers, communities and philanthropic efforts, all too often I find that despite these accomplishments, women have difficulty showing their true, authentic, multi-faceted and perfectly flawed selves-especially to their partner. Women tend to believe there is an expectation to be all things to all people-pleasing, perfect and pretty. They are conditioned to avoid drawing attention to their feelings.
‘If we all put our problems into a hat and then picked out of it someone else’s problems, we’d all ask for our own back.’ In this Facebook/Twitter/Social Media world that we live in, it’s easy to get caught up in the game of “compare and despair”. You know what I mean? You see your “friends” (some of them you’ve never even met in person! posting pictures of their amazing vacations)Envy Are you counting other people’s blessings instead of your own?
WOW! That really hurts. When you have great expectations of a long term relationship and lasting love, you feel good about yourself and confident in the future. Then you get the dreaded Dear John/Jane letter or the pink slip at work and immediately go from the heights of excitement to the depths of disappointment. Being dumped can change your life and confidence in an instant.
When I was growing up I was frequently shamed, criticized and judged by both of my parents, as well as by my grandmother who lived with us, and by many of my teachers. I grew up believing that there was something basically and essentially wrong with me. I didn't know what it was, but I believed if I could just figure out how to do things right, then the shaming and judgments would go away and I would be loved. But no matter how good I was, or how perfect my grades were, the shaming judgments didn't go away.
©JudyHWright http://www.judyhwright.com We all have weaknesses that are hard to accept. Parents, teachers and caring adults see areas that need improvement in children and want to help them build confidence. The trick is to build confidence and acceptance without criticism and breaking the spirit. As I have mentioned in previous articles and books, “Soar with Your Strengths.”
These words, this belief, are the biggest relationship buster I hear in my office. If a wife cheats, if a husband is cross-dressing, if a child is using drugs – those who are affected by someone else’s behavior personalize it. They believe that the other person is doing something to harm them, to piss them off, or to otherwise inconvenience them. There is the expectation, unrealistic as it may be, that “If you love me, you will (or won’t) do …………”
Ok, I can imagine that when you read the title "3 Ways to Rock Your Relationship With Your Body" you may be thinking all sorts of things! And actually, to be clear, the truth is that YES, your sex life IS a major part of a healthy relationship. It's a way of connecting on one of the four levels any healthy relationship requires: physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. However my topic today is much larger than that. Here's what I mean:
Isn't it time you stopped making your partner or your current circumstances responsible for your happiness and sexual pleasure? The truth is, most of us unwittingly sabotage our pleasure by focusing on what we don't have or want more of. When you are single, you crave a relationship, and when you've been in a relationship for a while, you often end up wishing you were alone or partnered with someone else.