Why The Love Yourself First Myth Doesn't Work
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Why The Love Yourself First Myth Doesn't Work

One of the greatest myths of our time is the love yourself first myth. This along with perfection kept me single a long time... The advantage to working on loving yourself first is you don't have to deal with anyone else. The disadvantage is we don't love alone we have to be reflected. Don't get me wrong if I had the time I would love to spend a few more years working on loving myself first... I'm just not willing to be alone that long.

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One important characteristic? Sex kittens are willing to be vulnerable.
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Me-ow! 8 Surprising Traits Of A Sex Kitten

It isn't about wearing sexy clothes, five inch stilettos or red lipstick. It isn't about being a size six or living a picture-perfect life. Life coach Debra Smouse explains how unleashing your Inner Sex Kitten is about that inner confidence of knowing who you are and what you desire to create.

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This is a revolution, even if you find it revolting.
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The Magic Beneath The Mirror: Why I Love Selfies

Are selfies shallow, completely vain and fueled by a 'look at me' culture or the revolution we have been waiting for? YourTango expert Jen Duchene explains why these insta-portraits are a way for us to look in the mirror and see beyond the flaws and the shadow.

How to Own Your Feminine Power! Meet Rha Goddess
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How to Own Your Feminine Power! Meet Rha Goddess

Do you know how to “Move the Crowd”? We have many misconceptions about what feminine power is. We have been taught that feminine power is “sugar and space and everything nice.” We also mistakenly believe that we must leave our feminine energy at the door in order to be successful. This is detrimental to our well-being because we are whole beings and how we do anything is how we do everything. If we are depleted of feminine energy during the day we can’t just turn it on when we get home.

Stop Running Away and Walk INTO...Self!
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Stop Running Away and Walk INTO...Self!

We, as individuals, are daily in a state of being with others, our higher power (some of us), and ourselves. How much of that time do we spend fully affirming ourselves rather than running from ourselves, taking on what others want us to be (or not be), and taking on others’ “stuff” (e.g. biases and negative attitudes about matters important to us)?

Are your love handles ruining your love life?
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Are your love handles ruining your love life?

I got a question from a woman today who wanted to know what men think about during intimacy. Specifically, she wanted to know if men “think about the love handles or the Jelly belly or all the other imperfections that are just staring at (them)?” Of course, we can assume this question applies to any other perceived “imperfection” which is ironic when you consider that “perfection” is a mental construct anyway that varies anyway both person-to-person and over time. But let’s address the specifics...

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"Appreciate the moments for what they are, but appreciate your life for what it is."
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Celebrating You: How To Truly Be Your Own Valentine

If you're someone who cringes at the sight of anything Valentine's Day-oriented, it's time to shift your focus this year and learn how to be your own valentine. Life coach and author Karen Elizaga, shares some self-love tips from her new book, Finding Your Sweet Spot: A Guide to Personal and Professional Excellence.

You Can Heal Your Life - Deserving
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You Can Heal Your Life - Deserving

Let's expand on the last post "Prosperity" from the book You Can Heal Your Life. Deserving If we do not accept the idea that we "deserve" to prosper, then even when abundance falls in our laps, we will refuse it somehow. Whatever we concentrate on increases, so don't concentrate on your bills. If you concentrate on lack and debt, then you will create more lack and debt. ---> In essence this is appreciating what you DO have, regardless of how minuscule you may think it is.