The morning quickie: the perfect way to start your day. Read on for three interesting love and sex tidbits: the unexpected statistics on divorce rate for second marriages, the importance of intimacy with yourself, and asexuality.
They say fourth time's a charm for always-a-bride Jennifer Lopez. Her former husbands Ojani Noa (one) and Cris Judd (two) would know. Jenny's current husband Marc Anthony can now claim third and fourth place, since the couple renewed their vows last weekend, according to "People" magazine. JLo clearly takes the cake for most marriages, but Marc, serial vow-renewer, seems to be breaking records himself. He and his first wife of four years, former Miss Universe Dayanara Delgado, also renewed their wedding vows in December of 2002. Their divorce was soon to follow in 2004. Four days after it was finalized, Jen and Marc were married in a secret wedding.
Joe and Jill Biden have a strong relationship. Jill told Time that Joe has a romantic side to him and The New York Times described him as being head-over-heels in love with his wife after 30 years of marriage. When Biden introduced his wife at the Democratic National Convention he described her as "drop dead gorgeous." No matter who wins the election this November, the Bidens will continue to be an example of how a marriage should work.
Ellen Fein, author of the 1995 juggernaut The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right, got married for the second time this weekend. (The first marriage ended in 2000, just as she the second Rules book came out, the one that promised "Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work." But nevermind.) The year after her divorce Fein went to a summer camp for singles where she met Lance Houpt, her future husband. The two connected as businesspeople; Fein is a best-selling author and Houpt owns two "decorative fabric and wallcovering companies."
When I proposed to Nicole last October, it was the first time I'd ever gone through the craziness of purchasing a ring, but it wasn't the first time she'd gotten one. It was my first engagement, but her second marriage, making our wedding—like about a third of the wedding in America these days—an "encore wedding," often a second wedding after divorce. Some guys might get jealous— of her first engagement ring, first honeymoon, first house or first-marriage children—but for me, it was almost the opposite. Her first wedding was "her" day, which meant that our wedding was wide open to be "our" day. So what exactly are the rules of an encore wedding? Well, there may not be many, but here's rule number one: it's poor form to compare the current wedding to any previous ones.