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From birth, we’re taught to be polite and generous. Say please. Always say thank you. Give of yourself. Somewhere along the way we unconsciously learn that asserting boundaries is to be selfish and unkind. In truth, saying NO can actually be a life saver and game changer, not only for you, but for the betterment of your relationships as well.
How many times do you say “Yes” when you’d really rather say “No” or maybe “I don’t know, let me think about it and get back to you?” Are you the first one with your hand up when the call goes out for a new PTO President, for someone to run the office basketball pool, coach the soccer team, organize the fundraiser or run for the Board of Education? These are just a few of the many, many ways that we are asked to serve in our families, places of employment and communities.
Do you find yourself taking on too much and then feeling irritable and hurried? Are you so compassionate that you: • Reach out to others and extend yourself way beyond your emotional, physical and financial needs. • Agree to do something and than anguish about your decision, wishing you had said no from the start.
Women have the mistaken belief that by always putting a man's needs first, doing what he wants and taking care of him, he will fall in love with them. This actually has the opposite effect. You may be great in bed, hotter than Halle Berry, sweet, sexy and supportive, but he will still not want to make a commitment if you never say that word. That one word is "No."
Yes. No. In my mothering lexicon, these are each complete sentences and everyone in my house knows it. Sure, I'm all for conversation, dialogue, discussion and open lines of communication. My husband and I like a good game of verbal volleyball, and we'll talk with our kids about almost anything. But I also reserve the right to not discuss, to sometimes employ just one word. Or make that two. No. Or, yes. Sometimes I don’t even explain. That's okay.
For some people it is very difficult to say "No". This article discusses the importance of making choices from your authentic self and how to set yourself up for making decisions that are best for you.
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You've heard it before, but I'm not going to browbeat you about the immorality of going all the way on the first night. I'm also not going to say that you're likely to drive away relationship material if, as the adage goes, the man "gets the milk for free." (If that drives him away, then be glad you're seeing the taillights.) No, take it from a man who knows: there's a hidden reason that—if you do it right—you should never have sex on a first date.
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