'Esquire' magazine recently conducted a survey of American men, ages 21-59, on why, where, and when they're having sex. Most shocking to me was the cheating statistic. One-third of men in committed relationships have cheated? Come on.
Men never cease to surprise me. No matter how often I write about trends in male sex preferences, cheating and other relationship-related news, the latest and greatest surveys always seem to throw a giant wrench in whatever conclusions my previous research had established. This year's annual Esquire sex survey is no different.
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Have you ever noticed that when you aren’t satisfied by the food you are eating, you eat even more in an attempt to get satisfaction? It happens more than you might realize, and it is keeping you from losing weight or keeping it off.
Readers, it is with great sadness that we ask you to bow your heads in mourning for the sex lives of women everywhere.
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Life is too short and too precious to waste time being unhappy, resentful or dissatisfied. You are the only one responsible for your own perceptions of the reality that you live in and you are the only one who can change it! Every moment offers a choice of what we think, say and do. We never know when our last day of living may be, so it is important to live life to its fullest and make the most of what we have at this time. But how can we do this when we feel “stuck”?
Why do you get this sinking sensation when you look over at your husband one morning and your heart fails to flutter? What if you're not in love with him anymore? A woman calls her friend, panicked. "I don't think I'm in love with my husband anymore!" "What happened, " her friend asks.
Why do you feel so backward compared to your friends? Why do you get depressed when you look at what they’re doing that you’re not? “Are you going to the barbecue this weekend?” a girlfriend asks. “No,” you reply, not really knowing which barbecue she’s referring to, but since you weren’t invited to any, you’re not going anyway. “Oh, well that’s too bad,” your friend says, “We’ve been having barbecues all summer.
As we gear up to launch our 31-Day Better Sex Challenge, bringing you 31 days of better sex advice, we want to know: how is your sex life stacking up right now? We've created a brief, anonymous survey that we hope you might take and pass along to others. We value your input, and frankly, we depend on it, so we know how we can best serve you.
Why do you feel a pang of regret for those children you never had, that you always said you never wanted? Why do you feel a yearning for kids when you know they really don't fit your lifestyle or who you are? I'm at the park, watching a bunch of kids play softball, and a gal sitting nearby asks her friend, "Ever wanted kids?" and the gal shakes her head: "Nah – too much to deal with as it is." "Yeah," the friend says, "But sometimes I wonder if I should have." "Well, you still could," her friend replies, "You're what – 37, 38?" "Just," the gal says, "But it wouldn't work. I hardly have enough time for my job with all the travel I have to do, plus keeping up with chores and all the stuff my husband wants, much less dealing with a child – and he doesn't want kids anyway." She sighs, "Oh, well."
We're all well aware of the top relationship-strengtheners: mutual respect; communication; a satisfying sex life; a mutual affinity for frozen pizzas. But sometimes, boosting your satisfaction within a relationship can be as simple as saying thank you. Is gratitude the key to a happy relationship?
Why does your husband get all sexy on the nights you’re most exhausted? How can he possibly expect you to feel romantic when you just finished wrestling the kids into bed and cleaning the cat’s throw up?
