This expert gives three tips to keeping your relationship healthy and secure. Remembering this acronym can keep you and your partner happy.
So there you are, the date is coming to a close, you're in the car or walking her back to her house from Muni. Heart is pounding. Sweat breaks out across your brow even though it's a characteristic 52 degrees in San Francisco. You've planned out the perfect kiss but are still nervous as hell as to whether she's going to be down and reciprocate. The moment comes, you close your eyes and against better judgement lean in...
So I’ve been wondering for the last ten years on what that magical thing is that makes for a good relationship. Not the kind of stuff that you need to keep a relationship healthy and growing--don’t worry, that post is coming--but what you need at the outset.
Yes. It is one of the first words we ever say and it only seems to get more difficult to say as time passes. In fact, as a child, we say "Yes" to pretty much anything. Yes to checking out the pool before we know how to swim, yes to sharing an ice cream cone with the dog, yes to chasing the Nerf ball (do they still make those?) into I-85. We are open to any possibility, and naturally possess what I like to call the “yes stance.”
Aright fellas, wanting to land that first date and not sure where to begin? You’re at the right place, but you need to throw something out first. No really. If you want that date you really have to. Toss out the “No-that’s-not-gonna-works.” Seriously. I’ve done the research, formal and informal, and helped plenty of men get that date, and then several more–in fact, that’s exactly why I created SF Relationship Coaching. So here are your tools.
The Academy Awards are right around the corner. If you are a movie buff, a celebrity watcher or a fashion gawker, this is prime time to sit back, relax and enjoy the show. This is also a good time to mingle and be social. If you are looking for something to do to make Sunday's show a little more festive, check out this list of places to watch with other cinephiles like yourself. The events range from free to premium prices. Be sure to check before you go and RSVP, if required.
Big congratulations to Atlanta and Miami for being named the most "sexually charged" cities in the U.S! If you live in the ATL or the MIA (do they even call it that? I'm such a dork) and you had no idea, now you know — and you've got to start living up to the expectations the rest of the country has for you, OBVI.
On assignment for COED, this week I took a historical romp into the wild and wonderful world of vibrators. Good Vibrations in San Francisco kicked open its doors on Thursday for the grand opening of the Antique Vibrator Museum. The exhibit covers the "weird and wonderful" world of vibrators from the 1800s to modern-day.
In a recent "chivalry smack-down" between five major cities, young women and elderly men were stationed on high-traffic corners and loaded up their arms with boxes until they were visibly struggling to hold them. Which cities were the most helpful, and which gave the struggling shoppers the cold shoulder?
It's been a couple weeks since you and your latest match on eHaromy have started corresponding, and after a few late-night GTalk sessions, the two of you are finally ready to meet in person. Do you test the waters over flights of beer? Or do you pump up the romance with a picnic in the park? Decisions, decisions—this one more challenging because your date is more or less a complete stranger.
Infidelity, jealousy, separation...they aren't just human problems. Members of the animal kingdom also face such relationship afflictions. Consider, for example, Harry and Pepper. Since 2003, the two male Magellan penguins have been a happily paired gay couple well-known to visitors of the San Francisco Zoo. In addition to nesting together, Harry and Pepper became parents when they incubated an egg laid by another penguin in 2008. But things turned sour earlier this year when Linda, a recently widowed female penguin, befriended Harry.
Have you ever wondered what goes on in your neighbors' bedrooms? Well, we're here to tell you. No, we didn't go all Patriot Act on strangers. We just read the results of Trojan's recent sex survey. Turns out, if your neighbors are like 75 percent of Americans 18 or older, they have had sex within the past year. Which means, if Trojan's random sample of 1,000 people is indicative, a quarter of adult Americans have not had sex within the last 12 months. Of course, unsurprisingly, both the frequency of sex and reported satisfaction with it goes down with age. Sigh.
National Masturbation Month was founded in 1995 by San Francisco sex toy store Good Vibrations. The owners decided to dedicate May to the art of masturbating after former U.S. Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders was fired (by an uncharacteristically prudish Bill Clinton) for suggesting at a 1994 United Nations conference that masturbation should be taught. In respect of the month, The Center For Sex and Culture also hosts a sticky event each May called the Masturbate-a-thon. The Masturbate-a-thon is exactly as it sounds—people masturbating and competing with on another for a series of prizes. This year's talent (the event was held on May 4th in San Fransisco) included a man who shot his load five-feet-four inches and a guy who played his skin flute for 9 hours and 58 minutes before the finale. Almost ten hours of stroking it. No way!
BDSM torture area. Check. Voyeurism peep hole. Check. Dad, grandma and sister on the payroll. Check. Welcome to the Power Exchange, a sex club unlike any other in San Francisco, California. Like a lot of sex clubs, there's a place to get spanked and a plethora of comfortable, water-resistant furniture. But unlike any we've come across before, it's family owned and operated and has been since 1995. That said, we don't think we'll be bringing Aunt Josie there anytime soon.