The first date was great; he emailed the next day. Kristine Kern wrote back—then he disappeared. Her friends told her to forget him, but instead, she emailed him again, breaking "The Rules" in a moment of defiance. Here's how a small risk resulted in a big reward. Conventional dating wisdom has its place, but life can be incredibly nuanced. Fate doesn't play by any rules, and there's no telling what you'll miss if you always see the world in black and white.