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Mike Rice's tough love
Is 'tough love' really love at all?

Is Mike Rice's Tough Love The Right Parenting Strategy?

An expert and mother weighs in on whether you should borrow this strict style to parent your kids.

Mike Rice, the former coach of Rutgers University's men's basketball team, was fired for what some might describe as his 'tough love' form of coaching. But does this work as a parenting style? Does 'tough love' parenting raise responsible, well-behaved kids or does it simply emotionally cripple them?

How To Help Your Babysitter, Help You
Give her some structure!

How To Help Your Babysitter, Help You

You have a babysitter hired and are excited about your date night out, finally! But Wait! Read this.

You see the babysitter at the door and are super eager to rush out before the kids even notice you left … not so fast!

Play by the Rules!

Play by the Rules!

Making rules for your partner means you've cast yourself as the parent and your partner as the kid.

"Don't talk to single people at parties."  "Mention within the first five minutes of a conversation that you have a partner."  "Don't notice other attractive people when you're with me." Do you have rules for your partner?  When one half of a couple makes rules for the couple, look out!  Parents make rules for children, so the person who's making the rules has cast him or herself as the parent and the partner as the child. Why would either partner find this satisfying?

11 Golden Codes to Becoming a Great Partner

11 Golden Codes to Becoming a Great Partner

To have a great relationship, be a great partner, here are 11 golden codes to being a great partner.

Golden Rule: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you ". Every one wants a great relationship, but the only control you have is control over yourself. So to have a great relationship, you need to be a great partner. To becoming a great partner one should embody the following eleven codes:   I. Believe in the Golden Rule as the basis of all human conduct; therefore, never do to your partner that which you would not be willing for that person to do to you if the positions were reversed.

eHarmony Presents: The Olympic Dating Games 2012
No need to be an Olympian to win a gold medal in eHarmony's 2012 Dating Games.

4 Gold-Medal Dating Rules For Singles

eHarmony polled 2,012 men and women to get a feel for the "dating rules" of the day.

Worry not, non-athletic individuals of the world. Sure, we don't excel in sport, but that doesn't mean we aren't good at other games. Take dating, for example.

10 Golden Rules Of Shopping

10 Golden Rules Of Shopping

Have you ever ventured into your local mall and you broke out in a cold sweat of confusion?

Have you ever ventured into your local mall and you broke out in a cold sweat of confusion after a few minutes? You are not alone, my friend. Millions of women all over the world become anxious when faced with thought of shopping. Yes it's true. My research shows that not all women have the 'shopping gene'. Many find this shocking, especially the male population. I have developed a sure-fire strategy, so here are my 10 Golden Rules if you are ready to dive in the shopping pool. Happy swimming and I wish you much success.

Listen Up, Parents! 5 Ways To Communicate With Your Kids [EXPERT]
It's time to have that mother-child talk.

Listen Up, Parents! 5 Ways To Communicate With Your Kids

Here are some tips that will help you connect with your children.

No matter how old your children are, even if they are adult professionals, it is never too late to connect and build strong relationships. These tips are simple but effective ways to communicate your love and support and to celebrate loving connections.

cupid
Have you ever tried playing Cupid?

The Rules Of Playing Matchmaker For Your Friends

One writer plays Cupid to her two good friends, and talks about the boundaries she will not cross.

Matchmaking is an old practice. On the frontier, because farms were far apart and it was hard to meet other eligible singles, families used dances to set up their children. In medieval times, Catholic clergymen and Jewish rabbis played Cupid within their communities. For centuries, European royalty consistently matched up their heirs-to-the-throne with heirs from other countries for diplomatic alliances. So this matchmaking business? It's not a new thing.

An Askew View of A Relationship or Lack There Of

An Askew View of A Relationship or Lack There Of

A man's poor view of his relationship with a woman or should I say non existent relationship.

The past few months I have been giving advice to a friend about his relationship with his girlfriend. Or should I say his "friend". He thought she was his girlfriend, unfortunately she never got that memo or he never got the memo she wasn't interested in a long term affair. I found out through the wonderful world of Facebook that she was with, (shocker) another guy friend of mine. And of course that guy friend of mine was someone I knew pretty well. He is the type that gets what he wants, he doesn't wait around for anyone.

20 Rules For A Happier Relationship [EXPERT]
Turn your relationship into rainbows and sunshine all year 'round!

20 Rules For A Happier Relationship

Try these tips today!

From my experience as a psychotherapist for 30 years and a married man for over 20 years, I think of these rules as everything a couple must learn for an ongoing, happy relationship.

Living Together Before Marriage: Is It A Good Idea? [EXPERT]
Living together before marriage does not guarantee that a relationship will last.

Living Together Before Marriage: Is It A Good Idea?

Premarital cohabitation can give you a false sense of security.

Sherri was shaken. She was living with her fiancé and planning their wedding and had just learned that her best friend had filed for divorce. Sherri said, "I was in her wedding party just a year ago. Everything was wonderful when they lived together. They were together for 5 years before they decided to get married. Things started going downhill right after the wedding. We've been living together for 3 years. Now I'm scared that we won't make it either!"