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What the heck does “We are taking a break in our relationship” really mean? So many people are doing it today & how do they get away with it? It is the same as having your cake & eating it too ~ you may as well cut off a big piece & spoon feed it to them!
It's considered common knowledge that the things people fight over the most are sex and money. Did you know that it's not true? A recent survey conducted by YourTango revealed that the number one reason people fight is because they don't feel appreciated by their partner. Communication issues ranked second. Personally, I think if you don't feel appreciated by your partner, chances are pretty high that you're not communicating well, either.
It's a taboo subject in our culture: Married women, who dislike, or even hate, having sex with their husbands. It's a subject usually held in silence, behind embarrassment, confusion and sometimes even apathy. It's consoled with inner thoughts, such as, "There's more important things in a marriage than sex," "This is just a phase," or "My attraction will increase when the kids are older."
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When my grandparents got married in the 1930s, I’m quite certain neither one of them had the kind of engagement anxiety I see among people today. My grandmother did experience grief about leaving her mother and two sisters. The difficult feelings were displaced onto her wedding dress and veil (a mosquito net so an understandable disappointment on her part!), but she didn’t spend a moment wondering if she was making the best possible choice or if she loved my grandfather enough, if he was her soul mate or any of the other anxiety-based questions that wreak havoc on my clients’ minds.
![6 Steps To Help Couples Overcome Relationship Stumbles [EXPERT]](http://images.tangomag.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/node-full/images/86515138-1.jpg "6 Steps To Help Couples Overcome Relationship Stumbles [EXPERT]")
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. It’s easy for couples to fall in love. Staying in love is the tough part, according to clinical psychologist and marriage counselor Randi Gunther, Ph.D. In her new book When Love Stumbles: How to Rediscover Love, Trust & Fulfillment in Your Relationship, Gunther shares a six-step healing plan to help couples overcome eight of the most common “stumbles” or problematic patterns in their relationships.
Pinkee here~ All of life is based on cycles. If you really think about it, it’s true. The days and nights, the growth cycle of plants, the seasons, the tides, a woman’s menstrual cycle. Women in general seem to be more in tune with the cycles of life. They tend to go with the flow, and bring themselves into harmony with what is more easily than men. No judgment here. Just stating what is. And as always, I’m talking in general. Of course there are exceptions to every rule.
As a relationship therapist who counsels singles and couples, I have been privy to the fears, compulsions, deepest secrets and desires of those hoping to figure out what it takes to find and sustain love. No matter what their ages, histories or financial portfolios, the questions patients ask and the wishes they drop in my lap are heart-touchingly similar. It is likely their secret concerns echo yours. And knowing you are not alone in harboring these emotionally debilitating feelings can be a giant salve, a step toward healing.
In yesterday's blog posted on my website, I shared with you the story of reaching one of the most critical and difficult points in the journey of caregiving for my late husband. Click on over there today to read Part 2 on how choosing became the key to finding freedom and love again. A simple, but profound approach that can shift your life right now.
You don't have to have cancer or be caregiving for someone who is going through it to have life slam you up against a wall. And it is rare to meet someone who hasn't been pushed to their limits in one or more areas of their life. It's not always easy to admit you're reaching your breaking point but to avoid that conversation with yourself can be a ticket to disaster. Check out my blog today on Finding Freedom on getting real about making it through
It doesn’t take rocket science to know that appreciation makes even the hardest work go by more smoothly, however, it bares some serious examination at the notion that appreciation can affair proof a marriage. I suspect appreciation is an insurance policy against lots of potential relationship bumps and pit falls.
When you are in relationship and the other partner is having some sort of a serious issue, what sucks is both partners are suffering from that serious issue. Both partners feel the effects of the depression. Both partners have to deal with the results of the drinking. Both partners are trying to manage the anger. To say that “we have a problem” is 100% right on the mark. However, to say that “we need to deal with it”, well, not so much, at least not in the way you probably think.
