Anything worthwhile in life needs regular, positive attention. This includes relationships. If you want your most important relationships to grow and thrive, you need to care for them.
In this blog series, I’ve been talking about the experience of questioning your sexuality when you are married or in a long-term heterosexual relationship. While this is obviously not something that happens to all women at midlife, for those who are in the midst of the experience, it feels huge and all encompassing. I devoted the first article to discussing the questioning phase of coming out; in this issue I’d like to focus on what happens when you are no longer questioning – but know.
While some people are inappropriately labeled "sex addicts" — providing a blanket excuse for all kinds of irresponsible sexual behavior — others truly suffer from uncontrollable sexual impulses, or sex addiction. The main symptoms of sex addiction include a loss of control, failed attempts to stop unwanted sexual behavior, and a pattern of negative consequences from anxiety to depression and legal problems. Here are some facts about sex addiction you may not know.
Can a heterosexual man and woman truly just be friends? If you are in a heterosexual relationship with someone who has a close friend of the opposite sex you might be grappling with this gnawing question. Of course you want your mate to have friends and people in his or her life to count on and be close to in addition to you. At the same time, nobody wants to be taken for a fool. You might feel like you have to stay on alert-- What if your partner's friend has ulterior motives?
I've often given the following poem to clients who are struggling with changing their lives and are down on themselves for not being able to change faster. It is intended to give us hope so we can continue our journey. When we are in our own personal “hole” it is so difficult to see our way. Most of us tend to beat ourselves up which only digs our own hole even deeper. So here's my summer gift to all of my readers. Please enjoy!
So you and your mate have been together for awhile now and it seems to you that intimacy and passion are dead and lifeless? Perhaps you look back to your early years together and wistfully remember when time spent together with your partner seemed alive and even red hot. Or it might be that your intimacy has never felt as close as you'd like. Maybe you've always longed for a spicier and more connected relationship. There are varying levels of intimacy in love relationships or marriages.
Not only is Rush Limbaugh way wrong on his comments about Georgetown University student Sandra Fluke but there's an even bigger problem that affects relationships and marriages everywhere when someone with a large audience or platform like Rush makes derogatory comments about women like the ones he made recently.
"Why didn't someone tell me it was going to be so hard? I thought that after we were married things would settle down and we could just be happy together! How come we just fight—and our fights go around in circles and we never solve anything? I am not even sure I should have gotten married in the first place!"
Today is the perfect day to do a romantic life check-up, where you take account of what you have~and compare it to what you want. If it's off at all, this is a good time to assess if you are in the right relationship or not. One clue to knowing if you are with the wrong man, is to notice the patterns of your relationship.
Can Trust be 100% Restored after Infidelity? Trust is such a hard thing to gain, and such an easy thing to lose. Trust is the key ingredient in any relationship. Trust is love Trust and unconditional love go hand in hand
"We can't seem to connect anymore." This is one of the most common complaints I hear in my counseling practice. We all know that it is generally easy to connect at the beginning of a relationship - before all the protections and defenses come up. But what do you do to reconnect once you feel disconnected from each other?
It was a quick wake up call to learn that my husband didn't feel I honored him--and then I set out to learn what honoring your spouse really means. In a world where traditional values pull us women in one direction and modern notions pull us in another, are we really still expected to submit to our husbands?
Dance on the Beach of Life! Sometimes in our lives we reach rock bottom. We experience what we call hell. For each of us it's dressed up differently, but for all of us it is dark, tough and devastating. This hell can be our awakening. Some people call it a break-down; I believe it is a break-through. This was the sequence of my hell over three months. * My second marriage failed * My business failed * My youngest daughter left me to live with her Dad * My health failed
We see it all of the time. Two people who seem completely opposite from one another fall in love and end up together. There are those couples who are physically very different—one is quite short and the other quite tall. Or, one might be the veritable social butterfly who is extremely extroverted while his or her partner thrives on being quiet and at home alone with just the two of them.
Are you unhappy in your relationship, want your partner to go to counseling with you and he refuses? The majority of the work I do is with women who want their partner's to change and are frustrated because he doesn't see the need for it. This is when the real work begins! Whenever you are in a relationship and find yourself unhappy about how things are going, commonsense would dictate that you need to have your partner’s cooperation to “fix” things. But that is not necessarily true.