After moving in with her boyfriend Eric one year ago, following their college graduation, Emily, who is 25 years-old and working as a film editor's assistant, plopped herself down on my couch and complained of boredom. She wondered if she was in the wrong relationship because she didn't feel that spark of excitement anymore when she saw Eric after work.
I was wondering: how many people get into these situations, when their partners, who are suppose to give them love, appreciation and support, turn against them? Still, others might wonder why they are not leaving their abusive partner, as well. Once in a while, most of us get handled in a non-respectful way, and it would be irresponsible to break up after every conflict. On the other hand, the unfair but usual maneuver of an abusive partner who makes the victim believe that she or he is responsible for the bad turns of events is completely unacceptable.
The Miami Dolphins dropped Chad Ochocinco because he headbutted his wife, Evelyn Lozada. We understand that this was not the right thing to do, but the man plays football, which is a very violent and physical sport. So, why drop a man for doing something that may have come as a result of his competitive nature and as a natural reaction to frustration?
Over the course of a year, I see hundreds of people. Still, some of the stories I hear have touched me deeply. Such was the case with a couple that asked to see me after hearing me speak in Hawaii.
In a recent study, at the University Of Notre Dame, Anita Kelly, a Psychology Professor, reported that when peoples lies went up during the week, their health went down. Conversely, she reported that when people’s lies decreased, their overall health improved. This is amazing news, connecting our emotional life with our physical wellbeing. Anyone who has ever attended a 12 step meeting knows that addiction and lies go hand in hand.
The most power we have during a conflict is to notice when we’re triggered. Look for physical cues, sensations in your body, your tell-tale signs. As soon as you notice the tightness in your jaw or the heaviness in your chest, walk away. An argument is not what the conversation is about as much as the strong emotional reaction that happens when you’re triggered, and one of the keys to conflict resolution is to try not to engage when you're triggered!
Marlo and Jack have been married for twelve years and have two young children. Marlo and Jack each state that they love each other, yet Marlo does not feel loved by Jack, while Jack states that he is content with the relationship. In their relationship system, Marlo tends to be the caretaker, while Jack is the taker. Marlo often thinks about what would please Jack, while Jack rarely thinks about what Marlo wants or feels.
The Gaggle: How The Guys You Know Will Help You Find The Love You Want is the latest relationship advice book occupying single ladies' nightstands. What application does the gaggle have to someone in a committed relationship? Can the gaggle of men you surround yourself with exist even after you've traded cocktails and clubs for movie nights with your significant other? The answer is a resounding yes!
A woman can never truly sexually compete with a man. There is no way she can recreate with a sex toy, or any other foreign object, the intimate process that creates a life. A woman will never be able to compete with or recreate the 4,000 pounds of pressure applied when a man is stroking up and down, round and round, in and out. It's the equivalent of trying to put a prosthetic leg in place of a real leg.
Have you ever been frustrated with your partner? Maybe you long for him to say "I love you" unprompted, but it never happens. You wonder how long you can continue loving him without your need to feel loved and appreciated being met. You have tried to talk to him about your needs in the past and have learned he will get angry and turn things around on you. You end up feeling worse than before you talked to him. Why Katie Holmes Secretly Filed For Divorce
If you grew up in a verbally and/or emotionally abusive family, you might not realize when you are being abusive and when you are being abused. Behind verbal and emotional abuse is always a desire to control the other person — to have power over the other's feelings and actions.
What does it mean when you go on a first date with a man and he tells you he is kind of seeing another woman, but it’s not serious? Your first thought should be, “if it is not serious, then why is he telling me?” Second, you should ask him, on the spot, “How would she feel if she knew you were here with me?”
When my husband of two years said to me “I don’t know if I can do this anymore,” I reacted like most- I groveled. I said I would change. Things would be different. I wouldn’t nag him so much, require so much, ask as much. I would keep it together all the time. I would do the things he wanted.
Learning how to touch your man is essential to your relationship's success, growth and development. Many women do not know how to touch a man, and learning this skill is needed for a healthy intimate connection. Touching is a skill that, for the most part, has been forgotten and replaced with other activities, like shopping at the mall.
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” - Mother Teresa What you judge in your partner is also in you Have you found yourself trying to change your partner? Trying to control him? Thinking you’re right and he’s wrong? If so, these are forms of judging. Judging implies that something is wrong with him, that he’s not good enough. It’s easy to fall into the habit of judging the people closest to us, especially our partner.