With our fast paced society and the extreme demands hitting us from every side, more and more couples find negativity taking over their marriage. An abrupt injection of positivity into your relationship is the only way to change the environment before it is too late.
When it comes to sex and how we function sexually for some of us it is analogous to rocket science…bottom line – it’s complicated! It is never easy to live up to society’s standards as to what normal, healthy male sexuality is supposed to look and feel like [whatever that is?] exasperated all the more when there is something not quite right with how we are functioning when we are with our partner. As a sex therapist, I promote a sexuality based on pleasure, fun and intimacy and not performance. However, the social pressures that continue to exer
Mark sought my help because he was thinking of leaving his wife, Linda. He had not been feeling in love with Linda for a long time, but they had two children and he really didn't want to break up the family. "Mark," I asked, "Were you ever in love with Linda?"
As I write this, there are flurries outside in NYC, and winter just gets me. I don’t know about you, but winter just leaves me curling up in bed with lots of blankets, cranking up the heat, and sipping tea. It is a time that is cozy, comfortable, and reflective. The other day I woke up and I just felt down. I couldn’t explain it or even put it into words; I just wasn’t feeling that great. I usually wake up feeling pretty good about a brand new day that I have to create whatever it is I want.
I used to think that if something didn’t turn out right (cake batter or laundering a stained blouse, say) the way to apply a fix was to add something. More flour to the batter. An applique over the stain. I’d like to say those solutions worked, but we both know better. So why do we seek to add a BIG COMPLICATION to an already-complicated situation? I’m not talking returning a dog to the pound because he digs under the fence. Or changing your mind about that four grand worth of furniture.
For most men, the first tip in relation to women is, get your head out of underwear (yours and someone else’s) long enough to determine some key criteria. 1.Where were you when you met? If you were both at a program for improvement, you may be beneficial to each other at the start, offering encouragement and support, but then develop into a co-dependant/self-sabotaging tag team. If it was at your workplace, what happens if expectations aren’t met?
There are a lot of different reasons a woman will decide to sleep with a man. The “how” and the “when” don’t really matter as much as the “why.” A man wants to sleep with a woman because he is drawn to her, and a lot of the time that draw is physical. I’m not saying there aren’t other factors involved, but a lot of it is how she looks, how she carriers herself and how other men respond to her.
Warning: Do not read this article if you do not want to know how men truly think and feel. There are some women who are so beautiful on the outside but so ugly on the inside that it actually makes them unattractive. They believe that the man of their dreams (MOYD) should cater to them but do not believe they should have to cater to the MOYD. That just kills the love song. They do not feel they should cook, clean or do anything for their man.
Before you enter into any relationship, you must learn the art of forgiveness. Why? Because sooner or later we are all going to make mistakes, and if you do not know how to forgive, you can and will build a cage around yourself. Perhaps this should have been the first article written by HowToGetTheManofYourDreams.com, because a lack of forgiveness will not only destroy your relationship, it will destroy families and all of the good times you could have shared together. I believe this subject is especially applicable to women.
A woman’s first relationship with a man is the one with her father. Her father’s intellect, sense of humor, compassion, confidence and integrity all become the foundation for what she seeks in a partner. She seeks a bond with her dad and the desire to maintain that bond lasts a lifetime. If he was present in her life, then he may have been her initial source of guidance, strength and stability. If he was absent, then she may have deemed him an elusive icon or the standard for all that she wishes to avoid in a future partner.
By Dating Diva, Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D., for GalTime.com take your dating destiny into your own hands Nothing is more tedious than an endless string of first dates that lead to nowhere.
