My very first column for Lemondrop was about the various methods I've used to reject women over the course of my adult lifetime. I've used carefully nicknamed techniques and others over the years (perhaps in a later column I'll divulge my patented "It's Not You, It's Carl Weathers" brush off), and I've also been rejected by countless women in countless ways in turn. Really, there's no good way to dump somebody.
It’s pathetic how easily I can find my self acting like the insecure kid I was in high school. These days it doesn’t come up too much, but can happen when I meet someone I especially like and admire, and get the sense they don’t return the feeling. I can get to feeling so hurt and undeserving that I turn into a withdrawn ball of mush.
Rejection sucks. There’s no other way to say it. When he doesn’t show interest, doesn’t show up, or breaks it off after a relationship develops; it’s ugly and icky. No doubt about it.
Some men sometimes aren't as brave, particularly when it comes to relationships, as we'd like to think we are. Getting our lights punched out is generally less scary than being rejected by some broad. For this reason, God invented alcohol. But with the advent of online dating and social media (social networking), liquid
Jake the Pilot is ABC's latest Bachelor. You may remember Jake from last year's The Bachelorette, but a few of Jake's ladies this season are already becoming memorable for their own antics.
Breaking up is hard to do no matter what, but it sure does help to have a wordy companion during your time of need. Whether it's advice on healing, tips on creating a new life or just stories from people who have been there, a good breakup deserves a good read. Here are this year's best breakup books.
Kelly Clarkson is known for a lot of things—winning the first season of American Idol; having multiple number one hits; starring in the dreadful From Justin to Kelly. However, according to her official website and Facebook page, Ms. Clarkson might become known for something else—rejection. Miss Independent recently launched the "I Do Not Hook Up hotline"—an aptly titled phone service that not only promotes the singer's latest single but also gives us all an easy out from any uncomfortable dating situation. The number, 973-409-3267, appears as harmless enough digits and could easily be a number from North Jersey.
I am not good at turning down a piece of chocolate, let alone a nice, interested guy. I always feel bad, and so sorry for the guy. I lose sleep over it. But then part of me goes, Erin, get over yourself. It’s not like he’s going to die if you say no. Still, I hate doing it. Here are 5 ways to say thanks, but no thanks:
According to a science report (we picked it up from the crazy sombitches at Asylum), people who feel pressured to be attractive are more likely to fear rejection. While it probably doesn't take the University of Buffalo (or the University of Kent, for that matter) to tell us that people hung up on their looks place a lot of stock in what other people think about their appearance, the study does have some other interesting finds.
Before you get your moral molars all empacted and whatnot, we'll make vividly clear that this list by no means endorses having an affair and ruining a perfectly good marriage (or an imperfect one, for that matter). Hear us out. Whether single or taken, flirting is fun.
I've dated several guys who, from what I can tell, have a take it or leave it attitude toward sex, with an emphasis on leaving it. Why, you may ask, did I, someone who writes about sex almost every day, wind up with them? I don't really know, but I did. And the worst part about it is not the physical withdrawal; I'm not the kind of girl who needs to do it every day (though that would be nice). The worst part is the feeling of rejection that cuts really, really close to home. When I experience that, it's like taking all the fears I have about my attractiveness and boiling them into one pointed barb: you're not pretty/sexy/fun/cool/hot/exciting enough to f**k.
This is the saddest story ever: a 27-year-old man threw acid on the face of Iranian woman Ameneh Bahrami, blinding both her eyes, after she refused repeated marriage proposals from him. According to CNN, her attacker, who is known only as "Majid," fell for Bahrami at college and his mother attempted several times to arrange a marriage between them. Bahrami refused and even lied to Majid, telling him she was already married. Despite her refusal, he stalked her at her workplace to harass her. She even reported him to police, but the cops said there was nothing they could do until he actually tried to hurt her. What, no restraining orders in Iranian law? Maybe if they existed, the horrific attack on Bahrami that followed would not have occurred: one day in 2004, Majid followed her home from work and threw a container of acid on her face. Passersby tried to wipe the acid off and took her to the hospital, but doctors were unable to save her eyeballs. She is now blind.
It looks like Enrique Iglesias is –willingly– being used and abused by tennis pro/beau Anna Kournikova, whose been dating the singer since staring in his music video, "Escape," in 2002. "She said I'm probably just a guy she wants to date for a few years, then she'll leave me. I'm cool with that." We're sure he has a choice in the matter. "We talked about it all one day and she said that she wouldn't marry me. And she meant it," said the singer. But did he mean it? Or was he just kidding? Enrique is a self-proclaimed jokester, afterall.