Pay cuts, layoffs and credit-card rate hikes are leaving couples feeling too vulnerable to plant any real roots.
First dates at Le Cirque and second dates in St. Barth’s are out (for me, and maybe you, they were never in, but you get the point). Everyone’s feeling pressure on their wallets, and so for a lot of folks, that means pressure on the dating budget. What are the dating experts advocating in the downturn?
"Eventually, money affects every part of a romantic relationship. Where you live, where you eat, where you vacation, where your kids go to school and what car you drop them off in," says Bethany Palmer of The Money Couple who wrote, First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage. The tricky part is knowing at what point financial matters should enter your relationship and how to bring up money matters.
Pfizer—arguably the world's largest pharmaceutical company—announced today that Pfizer will offer free drugs (yes, even Viagra) to everyone who lost their jobs and health insurance since January 1st. Far away in the distance you can hear the whimpered cries of the guy who was laid off the last week of December. The drug company is planning on doling out 70 of their "most widely prescribed" drugs, free of charge, as long as you can a.) provide a pink slip and b.) sign a statement claiming money problems. This free lunch will continue for exactly one year, with enrollment open until Dec. 31st.
When couples get hitched they agree, often in front of large audiences, to support each other through the thick and thin. It's well understood that there will be times when one of the partners in the union will need a bit of propping up. But what happens when both partners need a boost?
The good old recession has apparently lifted the stigma associated with dating someone who is unemployed. Men and women alike are losing jobs meaning many more jobless date-seekers are roaming the streets. It seems that the dwindling legions of the employed population aren't holding it against their former brethren when it comes to engaging in romantic relations. Well, at least men are much more willing to ignore one's employment status when seeking a date. Zoosk, the world's largest social dating community, conducted a poll in which 1009 of its single users responded to questions about how the realities of the recession have affected their opinion on who they would or would not date. 78% of those polled said they would date someone who is currently not working. However, the breakdown between men and women was staggering. While most men, 92%, said they would date an unemployed woman, only 52% of women would get involved with a man without a job.
Twice, my friend Susan (I have changed some names and identifiers) found herself covering for a date who was short on cash. On the first date. At the end of one of them, there was even a humiliating walk to an ATM machine, where he handed her precisely his half and thanked her for a nice evening. Susan was mortified.
Give your friends a gift that doesn't have an obvious monetary value. In other words, resist the urge to write them a check in the amount of $54.25 even if it shows you're down to your last dollar. Instead, seek out registry items that pack a good punch. A miniature crystal vase doesn't carry as much weight as say, an oversized overnight bag. Luggage is a great gift for guests on a budget and if you can find it on sale, even better.
Our friends over at Recessionwire did a little write-up about us. Apparently, they like how YourTango and our founder, Andrea Miller, is handling the economic downturn that has hit so many other media groups. The Recessionwire crew would know: After getting cut loose in the downturn, they started the pop-up site to highlight the good in the sea of gloom.
Poll: Do You Want A Divorce But Can't Afford It?: Yes. We were heading for a divorce, but now don't have the money for it. No. Even though it's expensive, we're still divorcing.
Historically when a woman found out a man she wanted to date was unemployed, she would go running for the hills. But these days, with the recession affecting people in all professions, many recently laid-off men actually make very promising boyfriends. Chances are high that these men worked in law, banking, or another field that requires a decent amount of education, intelligence, and motivation. So while these men may fall into the dreaded unemployed category, they are still desirable, and maybe even more desirable than men who still have jobs. Here are four reasons why starting to date someone who's been laid off can actually be better than someone who has to go to work every day.
According to an article in Forbes this week, the answer is yes. Writes Susan Adams, "Layoffs, furloughs and shrinking 401(k)s may not seem like natural aphrodisiacs, but according to experts in relationships and sex, the depressed financial picture is leading some couples—and singles—to better appreciate each other."