The recession is still hitting us hard four years later and in the United States particularly, we’ve already changed the way we as women shop, splurge, and save money. But besides affecting our wallets, do these hard economic times have us desperate for a relationship as well?
When I recently told my sister that I was going to start actively dating and really putting myself out there, her response was simple and to the point: "Well, at least you can get a free meal out of it." I had always thought people said this as a joke, but after a bit of investigating among my single girlfriends, quite a few of them actually admitted to dating solely for the free dinner.
Max Green, 32, who just moved back home from the West Coast, recently told the New York Post, "I moved back in with my parents in August. I was dissatisfied with my job, was thinking of going back to school, and wanted to be close to my family."
You can find pot, condoms, and topless women at the Occupy Wall Street demonstrations in New York's Zuccotti Park. In an article yesterday, the New York Post painted a picture of debauchery among the protests, filled with homeless looking for free food and young people getting down in sleeping bags.
Would you ever go out with someone who was against Occupy Wall Street? Lola: Not everyone here is taking themselves so seriously. Holly: If a guy didn't at least find this interesting, he's probably too stiff and I wouldn't want to date him anyway.
Married couples of the world, we've got good news and bad news for ya. Let's start with the positive: Despite some slight fluctuations, the divorce rate has remained pretty stable for the last 50 years, even in light of a down economy. Now, the bad: Although the divorce rate is down, infidelity is up.
Examining the economic downturn's effects on how we find and show love. With strapped wallets, tightened belts and the national unemployment rate nearing double-digits, we can only hope that rumors of the recession's demise prove true—and soon. Here at YourTango, we wanted to know how the economic downturn in the U.S. has changed dating, marriage, sex and family already, and which of these changes will stick when the recession's over.
Recovering from an unexpected financial crisis involves both a plan and an attitude shift. Sure, bad things happen unexpectedly, but the way out of them is smart thinking and a strategy. If you find yourself facing a money emergency, here's how to get out of it with grace.
Too cash-strapped to get married? You're certainly not alone. According to the Census Bureau, the population of never-marrieds exceeded the number of married folk for the first time in a century. These days, many couples aren't necessarily choosing to forgo the wedding and marriage vows because they consider the whole convention obsolete or unnecessary—they just don't have the funds to get hitched.
Two studies say Hollywood and Playboy subconsciously sculpt their ladies to fit a mold depending on the economy. According to two studies analyzing the faces and body shapes of famous actresses and models throughout the years, tough times call for ladies who look more "mature," taller, sturdier, and a bit heavier then when the economy is booming.
According to the Office of National Statistics, lip gloss has replaced lipstick as the must-have on-the-go beauty item. The Daily Mail refers to this switch as "recessionista fashion," and BBC News points to it as a sign of inflation. But is the economy the real cause of gloss's new reign?
Poll: How Has The Recession Affected Your Love Life?: Made it worse. My love life definitely suffered because of the economic downturn. Made it better. The recession improved my love life. No effect. My love life's had ups and downs, but the economy's not to blame.
If I'm any example, my layoff has sent my libido to frenzied new heights: The desire for humpin' and bumpin' didn't start the minute I lost my job. Like most over-achieving, over-educated, Type-A people, I had been told my whole life that the world was my pearl-stuffed oyster. I'd been informed that hard work and determination would take me far. So I had every reason to believe my current status as a jobless American would only be temporary. I would beat the odds.
Okay all you lovers out there, so what do you know about dating, living and loving in the recession? Things have changed—not least in the way you appreciate your mate. After the jump, some of the new realities that have emerged in these tough times.
I wouldn't go out with a guy who refused to spend resources—time, energy, effort or money—on our date. It's not about the ka-ching. It's about value. I deserve a life filled with excitement, happiness and sexual richness regardless of mine or my lover's bank account balance. In case you want the same, I enlisted a few friends and fellow writers of the sexy stuff to provide tips that pump up the heat without pushing out a lot of cash.
Let's face it: The economy may be improving, but blast that lagging economic indicator—unemployment is around to stay, at least for a little bit. And while you may have plenty of time on your hands, the reality is that, more likely than not, your pockets will be a little bit emptier than desired. Never fear, necessity is the mother of invention! And there are plenty of ways you can save money on a date (without looking like a cheap skate). Clever, low-cost date ideas will get you out and about in the world with your sweetheart and allow you to get to know each other better than any fancy-schmancy dinner could ever facilitate.
Those who read this column know that I’ve been writing very personally about how the downturn has affected my relationship. In all honesty, I’m starting to fear that by focusing on what’s happening inside relationships, we may be losing sight of larger contexts—what could and should be happening in the structures that govern our lives.