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I do not envy you, sister.
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The Fantasy Versus The Reality … Of First Dates

Okay kids, it's that time again: time to address the hideously awkward truths of dating. First dates in particular are nasty little dens of discomfort and stilted conversations (yeah, your friends will occasionally have an amazing night, but that rarely happens to you). So, let's jump right in and see where Fantasy-You and Reality-You collide.

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What are they really thinking?
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The Fantasy Of Sex … Versus The Reality

Okay, since I seem to be on a mission to take all the fun out of sex, let's continue our discussion by examining the fantasy of sex versus the reality, scientific-like. Let's really look at the things we have a habit of passing over in our quest to get it on and have a memorable experience (i.e. the things we tend to romanticize and forget).

4 Ways 'Hope Springs' Can Be Misleading
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4 Ways 'Hope Springs' Can Be Misleading

Hope Springs is a great jumping off point to discuss relationships. I agree with most everything that has been written about the movie. From my perspective as a Mental Health Counselor, there are a few things that I would like to add which gives more depth and authenticity to couples counseling. I want to point out this is not an evaluation of Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones acting abilities.  They did a fabulous job conveying the vulnerability and complexity of the relationship between Kay and Arnold.

LoveTown, USA
What happens when Oprah gets a community to focus on love?
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Oprah Experiments With Love In New Reality Show, 'LoveTown, USA'

Reality television has turned dating into a truly trashy affair. Singles who are "looking for love" on these programs are often just looking to ignite their 15 minutes of fame, feigning vulnerability and faking romance just for some camera time; it's enough to make you want to turn off the TV for good.

Expectations Vs. Realities; Don't Be Your Own Worst Enemy
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Expectations Vs. Realities; Don't Be Your Own Worst Enemy

At sixteen, I had convinced myself from the educated sources of television and movie portrayls that I was at the 'right' age to begin dating and make my virginity a thing of the past. I didn't care to listen to any suggested advice that directed me towards waiting for the 'right' person. Instead, I did what most young ladies do when they begin venturing into the realm of young couplehood, I fell for whoever had the best script at the best opportunity they were given. Having no boyfriend, in my mind, meant that I was a loser and a hideous beast with no prospects.

Your Attitude Determines Your Reality
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Your Attitude Determines Your Reality

Mastering the Art of Feeling Good Intro Series: Part-4 Has it ever occurred to you that your mental attitude has more to do with your state of happiness than just about anything else? Think about it. Your attitude is how you think about a thing or occurrence; it's your perception of it. So basically, the attitudes that you carry are the way that your being is approaching anything that you encounter in life.

4 Bold Changes To Make In Your Marriage
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4 Bold Changes To Make In Your Marriage

Everyone knows that once you get married, there are certain expectations you're supposed to follow. Expectations that make men feel like they have signed their lives away, and make women think that they'll never have to worry about being betrayed or alone. Once you're married there are "rules" such as, "You can't cheat.", "You can't flirt.", "You must love and be attracted only to your partner."  What most people don't realize is that following those rules goes against the grain of our human experience.

Do One Thing Differently To Bring Love Into Your Life
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Do One Thing Differently To Bring Love Into Your Life

I’ve learned many things since my single days. Some are things that I regret doing and wish that I had done differently, and some are things that I regret not doing in the first place. It’s this second group that leaves your body aching with the painful regret of missed opportunities, of what could have been. If I could go back and do one thing differently, it would be that I would consciously choose to always do what I love doing. You see, when you love what you are doing, you are loving life.

The Remedy For Baseball Fever
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The Remedy For Baseball Fever

"Baseball is a popular way to escape reality," says Richard Drobnick, LCSW, DCSW of Mars & Venus Counseling Center, Bergen County, with offices in Ramsey, Oradell, and Teaneck, New Jersey. Richard Drobnick's counseling center ractices the philosophy of Dr.John Gray, best-selling author of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.” www.marsvenusnewjersey.com “It’s great to focus on problems that seem bigger than your own.

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Edward & Bella dance during the movie Breaking Dawn Part I.
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Real Love Or A Fantasy: The Appeal Of The Twilight Saga

During it's first week of availability, Breaking Dawn Part I sold 3.2 million DVD's and Blu-rays. For many, the anticipation of attending a Twilight premiere or purchasing the newly released DVD is likened to that of preparing for a high school prom. But teens aren't the only ones captivated. Audiences of all ages are hooked, guiltily or not, to the fanatical, addictive and utterly over-the-top love between the film's lead characters. So what is it about this solemn, inter-species affair that so appeals to the masses?

From Dream to Reality
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From Dream to Reality

Is there something new you would like to see happen in your life this year? Here is one of the questions I often get asked by clients who are working on their Visions. “ how do I choose what I want to include” Some ask this because they don’t think they know what they want, others inquire because they have too many wonderful ideas and desires that they are overwhelmed and get exhausted before they even start.

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Ask the Universe in writing!
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Turn Your Goals Into Reality

When the calendar turns over into a new year, some people dread it. Instead, carve out some time during the first week to rethink your life and goals for the year. Here's a simple form to use to address the components of emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, relationships and work.