YourTango surveyed 101 mental health professionals to find out all the dirt about couples who have children. From what they fight about more than anything else to how they rekindle the romance after the baby is born, this survey reveals all the juicy details you've always wanted to know — but have been afraid to ask — about love after kids.
Before I gave birth to our first child six years ago, my husband and I discussed our son and the manner in which he would be raised at length. One question we did not answer until a nurse posed it in the hours after delivery, my newborn baby boy nestled snugly in the bend of my arm, was whether or not our son would be circumcised.
Anger is a powerful, strong emotion, so we need powerful, strong strategies to help release that anger. As adults, we need to have our anger strategies figured out before we attempt to figure that out with our own children. Then, we must remember that our children's emotions are their emotions, not ours.
Single women in their late 30’s or early 40’s are often worried about their biological clock, for good reason. Whether dating and looking for the right life partner, or on a hiatus from the search, there is a point at which the reality of time moving forward registers. With that reality are the facts about how much more difficult it is to become pregnant with each passing year in your late 30's, and more so in your early 40's. Then the question is whether to raise&
©JudyHWright http://www.judyhwright.com We all have weaknesses that are hard to accept. Parents, teachers and caring adults see areas that need improvement in children and want to help them build confidence. The trick is to build confidence and acceptance without criticism and breaking the spirit. As I have mentioned in previous articles and books, “Soar with Your Strengths.”
When parents think about discipline, all too often they equate discipline with punishment. Whoa … not so fast! 'What's wrong with punishment?' you may wonder. Well, punishment is costly. It results in kids feeling badly, both about themselves and about you. And is it effective? Not very.
People often joke that, despite our best efforts not to, we grow up to mirror the habits and behaviors of our parents. Unfortunately, this age-old concept now stretches even further, and it may be affecting romantic relationships.
By Barbara Greenberg, PhD, Teen Parenting Expert Yep, we all do it. So let's have a little fun looking at our "parent fails"- those moments of parenting gone awry where we had the best of intentions but no guide to tell us exactly what to do. Those "oh no, did I just do that or say that? moments are inevitable if you are a parent who is deeply immersed in the parenting game. And, during this game wrong and awkward moves are bound to happen, REPEATEDLY.
Have equal rights for women literally destroyed the balance in modern day relationships? What is the difference between present day society and from our society 40 years ago? Why are there so many divorces, broken homes, and single parents today as opposed to yesterday? What is the one variable in a relationship that has changed from that period until now? Women.
When was the last time you preached to your kids about abstaining from behaviors in which you personally engage? None of us is completely innocent when it comes to the adage, “practice what you preach”, and I don’t believe our kids expect us to be. The question is how, given our own shortcomings, do we teach our kids right from wrong so that they’ll actually listen, and at the same time view us as humans worthy of respect? I’ve found the following steps effective in dealing with this dilemma:
Want a little Einstein around the house? The role of genetics in intelligence—i.e., the extent to which our smarts are inherited—has long been an academic war zone. What can raise your child's chances? There's no single best recipe, but studies prove that keeping TV out of the nursery, shelling out for music lessons, breastfeeding, having a big library, and withholding cookies are just a few ways to boost your child's chances of success.
Before I had kids, I was so quick to judge. When I would see a child running around the front yard wearing nothing but a diaper in the middle of May, I would scowl. Toy guns were trashy and unacceptable and lawns were meant to be lush and pristine. I would never be the one with the dirty kids and cluttered house, I vowed. I'll be the classy one whose child is always properly clad, grass is well manicured, and house is neat and tidy.
Before I begin, let me preface this piece by saying that I take dog parenting very seriously. I don't just wake up, take the dogs out, make sure they're fed, leave for 10 hours and come back to do it all over again. I actually "parent" my pooches. Parenting these two furballs has been wonderful practice. I believe that, through them, my husband and I have established our roles as a parenting duo.