Kids notice differences in other people. They are not "colorblind" as some adults like to pretend, and thank God, since all of our many differences are such an important part of our individual and cultural identities. And while it's perfectly natural for kids to notices racial differences, they do not naturally judge one set of characteristics as superior or preferred, until some adult teaches them to prefer certain characteristics.
Are you and your partner developing a different culture than that of your parents? It won't be easy.
Dear Dr. Romance:
I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years with a great person whom I've known for the 5 years I've been in this country. We studied together, were genuine friends before feelings started to develop, and we decided to be together. He and I are from a different nationalities and races. This has never been a problem to us because we seem to get along great in terms of values, religious background, personalities, interests, and interactions.
How a family-friendly film turned into a much darker debate.
There has been much debate over the film, "The Hunger Games." Sadly, it isn't the debate fans bargained for. What started as a family-friendly, must-see film has turned into a nightmare for the actors and actresses portraying various diverse characters.
Why do some black women still hesitate to date outside their race?
I recently did a survey on a group of black women regarding their reasons for not dating men who are not of color. Through my findings it seems as though black women aren't actually opposed to dating outside of their race. Part of the dilemma lies in women of color thinking that men outside of their race won't be attracted to them.
OKCupid categorizes online daters tastes and hobbies by race.
How does your race affect what you enjoy? It's a question everyone ponders, but that people rarely try answering for fear of non-PC implications. Enter the popular free dating site, OKCupid. Earlier this week, the company released a trend report, titled "The REAL 'Stuff White People Like,'" which used infographics to present the hobbies, tastes, interests and self-descriptions of various ethnic groups. To complete the study, OKCupid analyzed the personal essays in half a million of its user profiles to isolate words and phrases specific to each racial group. The results were funny, if not stereotypical and a little pop-culture heavy. White males like Tom Clancy, Harley Davidson and Van Halen, while white females went the escapist, sentimental route, claiming to enjoy Nicholas Sparks, bonfires and horseback riding.
The talk radio host has apologized for dropping several N-bombs on air.
On Tuesday, a black woman named "Jade" called Dr. Laura with a problem: she was upset that her white husband and his friends constantly used the N-word and other racial slurs around her. Although it seemed clear that Jade was looking for some guidance on how to confront her husband about the situation, Dr. Laura took the opportunity to try to debate what is racist by playing a little game of sticks-and-stones.
Millenials accept interracial dating. Will prejudice will go out with the Baby Boomers?
Earlier this month, Karyn Folan's book, Don't Bring Home a White Boy, became available in bookstores. Filled with real-life anecdotes and interviews, Folan's book addresses the myriad of reasons why many black women have balked at...well...bringing home a white boy. Still, the tide may be turning. According to the Pew Research Center's recent report on racial attitudes in the U.S., the majority of millennials, "regardless of race, say they would be fine with a family member's marriage to someone of a different racial or ethnic group." Will prejudice will go out with the Baby Boomers?
She's a lawyer. He's in the Aryan Brotherhood. And he's in jail.
For those who question the maxim, 'love conquers all,' the Los Angeles Times feature, "A Quarter-Century Marriage To A Man Behind Bars," by Joe Mozingo, is a must-read.
Meet Pamela Dowden and her husband, Robert Griffin. Dowden. The couple married in Folsom State Prison, beneath a guard holding a .30-caliber rifle, and the bride later drove off the prison grounds to spend her wedding night alone. The best man had recently been caught in metal detectors hiding knives in his rectum; the groom, an inductee into the prison's racist Aryan Brotherhood gang, wed wearing jeans and a prison-issued shirt.
Most surprising in this 'love conquer's all' story is the couple's divergent life choices. Griffin's adolescence was marred with heroin addiction, robbery and violence; Dowden married him her first year out of law school. Their pairing is unlikely, too: the couple used to be in-laws. Dowden had previously been married to Griffin's brother, and met her now-beau on his high school graduation day in jail. She grew to know Griffin intimately (that is, emotional intimacy) while writing him letters on behalf of the family. She debated his racist beliefs and mailed him feminist books, like The Second Sex and The Women's Room.