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Will he come back?

Published on April 9, 2012 by laurie

My boyfriend and I dated for seven months before he suddenly asks me for space. He says that he does not know what he wants, he needs to find himself. We had fought a lot while dating but we always fixed everything before we went to bed. I have an anger issue where I snap at any time for no resaon at all. I called him and I was upset. He said that he does not appreciate the way I talk to him most of the time. Last time we talked we were really friendly,it felt like we never broke up. Before I hung up, I told him that I love him very much and he started crying. He said that he does need time to figure things out, that a lot has been happening lately in his life including with me. He said that things might change but I am free to do whatever I want. I love him and I know he loves me too. I really feel like it's over,that I will never get him back. Some people has suggested that I wait for him to contact me and miss me. Let him sort things out for himself. But how long am I going to have to wait for his decision. It's just really unbelievable that this is happening to me. What should I do?. I lost faith , I cry myself to bed every night and I barely eat. I wrote him an email where I apologized but it didn't work. He's never been this mad at me. I usually know what to do to change his mind now I can't seem to get around it. If this relationship fails,I will never be in a serious one anymore because I can't deal with broken heart.


I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm in a very similar situation and had literally posted my question five minutes ago.

I'm curious to know the end result but am hoping the best for you.


Ask yourself what is going on with you that forces you to drive away your boyfriend? Have you thought about therapy to help you get to the root of the problem? Consider these things because you two could patch things up for a bit then head back down the same road.

He says he needs his space, so let him have it. He probably does love you but can't handle the two sides you often show him. Yes. Let him make the first move to show you that he misses you too. Don't always be in the driver's seat because obviously, that has gotten you into a lot of trouble as it is. Give him some space. Find things to do and try to move on in case he decides not to come back.

Find yourself and your own life. Only then can you make him happy if he does decide to come back to you.

I'm sure he's hurt too but, he said you are free to do what you want. What does that say? Tears and heartaches aside, who wants to fight all the time? Sometimes we go through tough heartaches but, hopefully we can learn what not to do or do next time. And, maybe he just wasn't what YOU wanted in a mate and he sensed it by the way you talk to him most of the time. Don't call him. You need to sort things out yourself too and see a councellor if you can't handle it on your own.