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Why wont he tell his family we are engaged/cross road

Published on March 25, 2012 by simplyb88

I been with this man for 3 years and He has a 8 year old which i love. I'm 24 and he is 36 our communication is getting better but is poor for the amount of time we been togather.We are engaged and i was so happy till i found out he has not told any of his family. Sometime i feel like im just convenient to him  (babysitter cook someone to drive him around etc.).I'm stuck at a cross road in my life should i try and make it work or move on?


What did he say his reasoning was to not tell the family? Also, why do you feel convenient sometimes? Is it because of the way he treats you? Is he sick or anything...I noticed you said that you drive him around..I'm sorry to ask so many questions, but I just want to completely understand the situation before answering you! But don't marry him until you are sure this is what you want. Don't even think about planning the wedding until the communication is where you want it to be. A lack of communication can cause a relationship to deteriorate pretty fast.

Nobody can read your mind. Ask for what you want. If you want a foot rub, ask. If you want him to help you cook, ask. If you want him to order takeout instead, ask. If you want to spend time with your girlfriend instead of watching his child, tell him he has to make other arrangements. You teach people how to treat you. If you are a doormat, that's how you will be used. If he ignores your reasonable requests, he doesn't care about you and you need to move on. If he listens and responds positively, see if he keeps up the daily effort. You are the treasure. A man has to treat you like you're someone special every day, or you will not be a part of his life. Remember that. If he changes for the better, tell him you want to have an engagement party and invite his relatives. Choosing a lifetime partner is one of the most important things you'll ever do. Don't settle. Good luck.

I've been in your shoes. It feels like you have more invested in it than he does. Seems like he gets all your great qualities without anything to tie home down nanny and wife. It should be a red flag his family doesn't know unless your engagement is recent. My advice is talk to him. Ask him nonchalantly how come he hasn't told his family. Depending on his answer trust your instincts than your heart. Unless he's growing roots to you no more being his main girl.