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Why has my Boyfriend not contact me yet does this means its over or he does n't care anymore?

Published on May 20, 2014 by dashoko

Am 29 years old and he is 23 years old.We have a relationship of 10 months and things are going in very well till on last Saturday. We don't stay together in the same town but its a distance of 30mindrive. Last Saturday everyone of us wanted to spend time with his friends.He was wanted to travel with his friends in another town to party and I wanted to go in the town he lives with my girlfriend's to party.Everything was just fine. So I asked him to give me his key's so that after party I can sleep by his apartment he told me we will meet later and he will give me, but still he was kinda off not comfortable with the idea because he told me his friends wanted to sleep there too so it would be better if I sleep by my girlfriend. Later in the afternoon he told me they are going to travel early so he can't give me his keys I said ok but I was upset. We didn't communicate again that day. Me and my girlfriend decided to attend another party but in the same town not where I told my boyfriend was supposed to go.So it was 3am at night in that club when I couldn't believe seeing blmy boyfriend coming out id dancing floor I was shocked since he told me he was going to another town with his friends. When he saw me I could see his face was also shocked. ..he started explain I wanted to tell you we didn't go , I know now you think I lied to you bla bla.I walked away from him and stand somewhere else.After a while he came again to me and asked me to go where he was so I was curious I went.When we reached the place ge was sitting I could only see girls who he introduced me to them non of his male friends were there.So I asked him where are their he said they were there but he can't see them.i couldn't imagine...I was mad more.At that time he tried to kiss me holding my hand infront of those girls I refused and told him am going home. He escorted me till the Club exit.So when I was almost to go now out he tried to kiss me I refused. ..he asked me so that's it I said yes that's it and I left. Am afraid he has not text or call me since Saturday and we have now Tuesday. I miss him and love him so much despite the fact he lied to me I still want ti give this relationship a chance. please tell what is the best thing to do in this situation?


It sounds like when he asked you if "that's it" he interpreted your response as saying, "We are finished." He may be under the impression you terminated the relationship with him. You will need to clarify that for him. However, he may no longer want to be in a relationship with you, and you also need to have that clarified for your own peace of mind. Either way, you will need to contact him and have your situation clarified. You need to explain that you were upset, but that you did not mean to necessarily break-up with him, and ask him if he would still like to be in this relationship with you. That is the only way you will know


You have caught him in a very elaborate scheme to lie. This may be the first time, but, rest assured, it was very calculated and planned.

I understand your feeling of shock and surprise. However, it sounds like he found an excuse to break it off. Ask yourself: even if or when he texts or calls you, will you be able to trust him again?

Marina Margulis, CMM, CPC, New York Socials

Thank you very much for your word of advice.Love is crazy thing the heart nomally decide different with the Brain when it comes to love.Anyway life must go on and its always good to choose the right decision am still working on it.

It sounds like he is not trustworthy and that you should consider whether you want to continue in a relationship with someone who deliberately lied to you. If you want to clear the air by all means give him a call but I probably would not advise you to keep up this relationship.