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Why doesn't my wife tell me her fantasies?

Published on April 28, 2009 by alaricroman

I have great sex fantasies. Other than a few milder ones, I don't want to act them all out. I would like to be able to share them with my wife and for her to tell me hers. Could it be she's has none? I've hinted/asked/begged her to tell me and she just says she doesn't really have any.

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i can relate to ur wife cuz i don't have any fantasies either besides great sex with my husband. ^_^

I wouldn't worry about it. I know people who don't have fantasies either. She might be telling the truth. Instead ask her what she enjoys in bed and go from there.

Sounds like me way back when. It wasn't that I didn't have fantasies, but they were picnics in park, long walks on the beach....perform your fantasies and teach her the thrill and excitement of nontraditional missionary position only in the bedroom sex. (how ever you define it) Women fantasize in scenarios, so ask her what she finds romantic then incorporate a touch of Joy of Sex. Some women, like me, have to be introduced slowly into the world of sexual fantasy. Who knew how fun a closet, the kitchen, back patio on a moonlit night could be? Wow. He gave a whole new meaning to moonlit picnic on the beach! DH also introduced reading of nontraditional books and watching of something besides PBS.

I WOULDN'T WORRY ABOUT IT. SHE COULD BE LIKE ME AND HAVE FANTASIES BUT NOT DETAILED ONES. THEY COULD BE GENERAL ONES. LIKE HOW ROMANTIC YOU COULD BE, OR AS SIMPLE AS HER COMING HOME TO A SPECIAL DINNER FOLLOWED BY A HOT BUBBLE BATH AND MASSAGE. JUST TRY SETTING UP SPECIAL TIMES THAT ARE REALLY ROMANTIC AND I HAVE A FEELING THAT SHE WILL START TO OPEN UP TO YOU AND TELL YOU MORE ABOUT WHAT SHE WANTS. SOME PEOPLE JUST FEEL UNCOMFORABLE TALKING ABOUT WHAT THE WANT IN THAT DEPARTMENT, NO ONE WANTS TO FIND OUT THAT THE OTHER FEELS THIER FANTASIES ARE SILLY OR WEIRD.

Possibly, she thinks you will judge her. It is possibly a trust issue. She has them everyone does it is human nature. She may be embarrassed without knowing her I cannot get the total picture. The most important thing is let her be herself if and or when she is ready she will tell you, and if she does not, then respect that.

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