Because he's a scumbag. His poor wife. My question is why are you de-valuing yourself by being in this situation? Treat people the way you want to be treated and you'll never go wrong. He belongs to someone else. Cut him off cold turkey.

He's a dirtbag, that's why. He probably got married for a trivial reason and isn't sexually attracted to his wife. I feel sad for her. Don't let him get to you. Cut off contact or you're going to end up very hurt.

We are very much in love with each other. He married her for mobilization in his career. We also have 3kids together so it would be very hard to cut off all contact with him