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Why does my boyfriend watch porn after we have sex?

Published on November 15, 2009 by raevyn20

3 yrs ago we had our first baby thats when the whole porn issue started. He would rather masturbate than come to me... He kept his porn secret and when I confronted him, he would tell me things that no woman likes to hear... like Im not attractive anymore, Im fat, I need to workout, he would say that he couldnt get aroused by lookin at me anymore ect...which I put up with for 8 months before I left.... we got back together 2 months later and he changed he apologized for what was said an done... and since then weve had another boy, and things stayed the same we still had sex and none of the harsh language... but he hasnt givin up the porn even though he knows how it makes me feel. Everytime I leave the house hes online lookin at porn. He may clear the history but theres other evidence he dont do so well at hiding... I do laundry... Even if we just had sex Ive told him time and again that I dont like it and why but he tells me that he dont own it... But we have the internet... If things start to get boring we try new things an he knows Im willing to please him. I ask what if I need to improve an IF he tells me I do without gettin offended. So my problem lies with whether or not I truely satisfy him or not. Why would he need porn if I do everything he asks? And why everyday? I want to be enough for him. Ive even offered to watch it with him. Some men want their wives or girlfriends to watch it right... Im offering and he still says no... it embarasses him... So what is it? Does he desire me? And its not like I want him to give it up all together.... Hes a man... but once in a while isnt an option. I cant talk to him bout any of this because it start a fight and he wont talk but it truely bothers me to the point that i wonder if hed be happier with another woman...

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      you need to dump this guy  while you are ahead   it wont get any better    let him do his perverted  ways  elsewhere     while you enjoy your life with someone who will enjoy  you for what you are    good luck

Raevyn20

Your husband is being very selfish for many reasons. First of all he knows that something is hurting you and yet he continues to do it. You need to be firm and tell him that he needs to get rid of the porn out of his life because it's destroying your security as a wife and destroying the foundation of trust in your marriage.

What has happened is that your husband has allowed himself to be drawn into the fantasy world of what he perceives that he sees on a screen rather then the reality of a loving wife who wants to be the one to be with him in all ways.

Yes he is a man however that is no excuse to avoid you and make the trade for porn over you. Your husband has issues that he needs to either change and get rid of the porn or your marriage is going to end up becoming so damaged that you will end up divorced.

Here is a link that I give to many people whom I speak to online and in my daily life when it comes to porn.

Go to this page and watch this ex porn star talk about the industry. Watch the video on the front page and read the truth section and also how she was brought out of the life of porn. Tell your husband to watch it and ask him one question.

Do you really want to contribute to what the reality is and how so many of these performers end up?

Here is the link.

http://www.shelleylubben.com/

If you have any questions feel free to email me if you want more advice.

Raevyn20

I posted and made a mistake by saying husband instead of boyfriend. Sorry about that. Hope the advice helps though.

Here is a different perspective.... please try to look at it from a guy's angle.

First off, he is not choosing porn over you the way you are taking it. Its not that he got unsatisfied with you so he went to release himself through porn. The thing is, he was already used to achieving his climax / orgasm through self-pleasure and perhaps stopped that for a brief period of time when you guys got married. and now he is get getting back to how things were.

The important thing to remember about masturbation is that the person doing that knows exactly how to pleasure himself/herself, for how long, by touching which part, how, etc etc.. to achieve maximum and intense orgasm... How can someone else provide the same level of pleasure? I mean, how can you know how to pleasure him, by touching how, for how long??? answer is you don't... Not unless he teaches you to..

And that is the answer.. that to get him off the habbit of climax through porn, you and him will have to work together, for him to teach you, show you, guide you how to pleasure him... For that the best thing you can do is to ask him something like "Please show me how to love you, how to make love to you, how to give you the best orgasm every time all the time. Show me and guide me how to touch you" Ask him his favorite sexual position for YOU, how he would like to see you during sex... trust me theres a big difference in sex position for sex, and position for the partner...

And as you can tell, for this to work he will need to open up about his body and sexuality..He will have to not only talk about what he really likes in sex... but also to show you how to touch him. Example: If its about stroking his cock, he would need to tell you how to put your hands around his member, how firm, lubricated or not, how much lubrication, both hands or one? should you suck his cock some or all.. etc etc.. if you are able to do that... i,e, if you are able to give him a higher level of pleasure than what he is getting by self-pleasure then he will never go back to his old ways that hes been doing for years now... and being a woman, you have lots of ways available to entice him.. not only you can stoke his cock for him, exactly like he would for himself, but you have boobs available for him to play with, a hot wet (tight?) pussy he can plunge in, and a body he can play with.. just learn how to use your assets..

Good luck!

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