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Why am I always single?

Published on March 18, 2010 by jth1988

Girls tell me that I'm an attractive guy. I'm 22, 5'11", and 187 lbs. I have blonde hair, blue eyes, and have a flirty personality. I'm really easygoing and never have any drama going on in my life. Yet, I'm always single. My friends are always in relationships, and i always feel like the 5th wheel. I can talk to anyone easily, but when it comes to getting in a relationship, I freeze up and can become awkward. Sometimes if I'm talking to an attractive girl, I become nervous and end up walking way. When I was in school I had glasses and braces at the same time. I was always made fun of and was always hurting. Even when I got my braces and glasses off and moved to a different state, I was picked on. Now that I'm out of school, co workers and friends enjoy my company.

How can I fix this issue?

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It's not complicated: You are always single because you are not asking girls out. To become in a relationship you have to ask girls out.A lot of times people lose confidence when they are approaching someone they like because they are so afraid of making a "fool of themselves" you have to get over that. You have to be willing to be rejected every once in a while in order to find that person you want to be in a relationship with.

Why not try some online dating to up your confidence or ask some of your friends to set you up on a date or two so you can get into your game. But honestly, everyone gets rejected. Heck, I turned down my now-husband twice when he asked me out. It happens. You'll live. Take a deep breath and ask a girl if she wouldn't mind going to dinner with you.

Relationships don't just happen. You have to make them happen.

Lyz is right. The only way to do it is to just go out and ask. Whats the worst that'll happen? You'll be told no. Is that really going to make your life any more different than it is right now?

Start off easy. The great thing about dating online is that you know the other person is looking already. Now you can just take the time to talk with them before choosing to meet them!

Another way you could go is to go and join a group activity that you enjoy. You'll meet people there with similar interests, make friends, and maybe find someone you want to be more than friends with.

My GF was like you...the ugly duckling in school who became beautiful afterwards. She still has some of those same fears that you do lurking around in the back of her head, but she learned to "marry" the strength she gained from having to develop her own personality in school (one not based on looks) to the sheer joy of accepting that she is an attractive woman now.

You are your own person, and now you are all wrapped up in a package that you are proud of, so go and find someone to share it with.

The main thing you lack is confidence. The bad news is without confidence, it doesn't really matter how many girls you ask out. The good news is that confidence is its own justification.

If you know what you have to offer, you should be fine, and remember that everyone has different preferences, so if you get rejected, it's at least as much about her as it is about you.

Good luck.

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