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Where do I set my boundary line?
A couple of months ago my younger sister called saying " I need my big sister, can I come talk to you" I invited her over and she immediately started talking about her anger, resentment and frustration with her husband, my husband and I listened and expressed that they should both get help from a professional asap, they have two girls ages 5 and 1yr and we did not think it was a good environment where there is constant fighting, we even gave her phone #'s and names of some trusted professionals. We did not follow up or hear if they followed through with our advice. Then yesterday I got a text from her again asking if she could bring the kids over to play with my daughters ages 7 & 6yrs and that she wanted to talk. I did not want the kids to hear anything so I set them up with an activity and we went to talk, she told me she had an affair and her husband found out and they had been arguing for the last week and things have gotten bad she even said "I know I should feel bad about what I did but I don't" a couple of times she didn't even realize the kids had come around and could hear and I had to whisk them away! The only thing I could say was she needed to get professional help right away! and I gave her contact info again. I love my sister and I am concerned for my nieces but I am afraid once again she will not take the advice and get help! It's hard to not want to be there for my sister and it is constantly on my mind, but I also don't want this to affect my family and kids. I do not want to enable my sister to use me as a "garbage disposal" by talking it out yet not get help! It has now become a major conversation between my husband and I because we are so concerned for our nieces, sister & brother in law! How and where should I/we set the boundary? It's very hard to turn the " light switch on & off"(talk and think about them)! Thank you!