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when an ex-fling returns?
Okay, so here it is.
The guy i gave my virginity to...(after three date... complicated situation, i know.. not a whore i promise.. i was 20 at the time...i really liked this guy!) Is now coming back into the picture.
After the whole virginity situation, I also dropped the... Lets be in a relationship bomb... and he fled. Its quite obvious he doesn't do the whole commitment thing. It is unfortunate that i found that out after giving him my virginity, but c'est la vie, i guess?.. It also turns out that he is a Bit of a Womanizer/Player... didn't find that out until after also.. Well.. We stopped talking COMPLETELY for six months, and to be honest I think it just freaked him out... So i just accepted that he probably wanted nothing to do with me, and that was it. I dropped it, and moved on...
But last week, I bumped into a friend of his at a party, and of course he was on my mind.. for that moment anyway. I sent him a drunk email, just saying, I'd bumped into our mutual friend, and just wondering what he's been up to, you know.. the whole how are you thing, nothing desperate or crazy... and he replied the same, oh everythings great.. etc. And that was the end of it for me... Didn't say anything after that.
Christmas comes, and he emails me.. and wishes me a happy holiday.. yadda yadda, and ever since than we've been going back and forth, and he tells me that he wants to see me...
I told him i wasn't really interested in giving him anymore of myself, because i think i gave him enough.. but of course that causes him to try harder.. this guy is definatley known for loving "the chase". So, Here is my question..
What's up with him?
He's known for being a player... After I gave him my virginity... he completely cut me off... And told me, he doesn't do relationships.
Why is he trying to see me again?
Just for some action? This guy can have ANY woman he wants, (trust me!)
Is he talking to me now, because I initiated things?
I don't want to end up hurt... If i were to see him again, I would want to be in a relationship.. not just some casual situation... and I don't think he's into that sort of thing...
I do want to see him again, because I really like this guy, but I don't know what his motives are...
Can you help me?