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What's going on when he wants everything but the title?

Published on April 5, 2010 by socrates

A couple of months ago, I met someone at a party and we hit it off. Since then, we've gotten really close and coupley- he wants to talk all the time, hang out regularly, be sexual, introduce me to family and friends, be affectionate and exclusive. BUT he's not sure he wants a relationship. To me all of the above seems exactly like a relationship, so I'm a little bewildered. Bear in mind I got out of a serious relationship a week before meeting him & he's never had one.

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Are you sure that he wants to be exclusive? Because being exclusive means that you are in a committed relationship. Or does he want you to be exclusive to him but he doesn't want to be to you? That would mean that he likes having sex with you and hanging out with you but he wants to keep the option of seeing other people for himself. In fact, he probably does have someone else that he's seeing if he doesn't want a committed relationship. I think if you really want a relationship with him you should give yourself a realistic time limit for how long you're willing to wait for him. You can't force a commitment from him, so if after say 6 months he's still not interested in being in a relationship with you, it's time for you to move on. If he's playing games or being wishy-washy don't fall for it.

Please understand that sex...hanging out...meeting family members does not justify a relationship......when you start talking to someone on a continous basis...you have to go into the friendship with open eyes and a closed heart...don't get your heart involved...keep your eyes open so you won't be blind to anything that you should be paying attention to.....don't be hype for a title....enjoy the time you are spending..... because sometimes when the title comes....the relationship changes....evidently he is digging on you....and it sounds like you guys both respect each other......well let's see where this goes....be anxious for nothing.....pressure makes men run.....enjoy him.... enjoy what you have.....the time you spend together....enjoy!!!! God bless you on whatever you decide!!!!

His actions say relationship, but his words say no. That sounds like a man who doesn't know what he wants. You need to decide how much you are going to give to him with no commitment in return. It worries me that you would give so much to a man who tells you up front that he is not going to give you any sort of commitment in return.

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