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What should I do with this guy?
I am in a very strange situation and would love some advice from other women or even men!
I met a man who is absolutely wonderful. He is everything I have ever wanted. He is a brilliant man, a member of MENSA infact, and is college educated. He is good looking, athletic, patient, and kind. He is wonderful with children, compassionate, and always very attentive to me and my needs.
This man is good in bed, always catering to my needs, and is very unselfish. Everyone we meet loves him, and I feel very safe with him as he is big and protective.
Now, here comes the problems. He is very boring. He grew up very much alone, having lost a brother who died young, and his parents were divorced. His father was abusive physically and emotionally, and some of his family are in jail, and as a result he very much raised himself. He likes to read, cook at home, go to the opera, and visit museums. Whereas I like to go to clubs once in a while, drink on the weekends, and meet new people. He is very content to just spend time with me, and alone. He never wants to do anything "fun".
Secondly, he has had a very, very difficult two years. He was a fund manager for an offshore investment firm. When they collapsed, he went from being a millionaire in his late 20's, to being bankrupt at 30. He has now spent a year out of work, living at home with his mother who he hasn't lived with since he was 5, and is dealing with legal issues and severe financial issues. Then, about a year ago, he shattered his knee in a soccer game. He has had two surgeries, and has not walked in a year without crutches.
I am 26, and he is now 31. He can't get around without his crutches, he is over a million dollars in debt, he is living with his mother, and he is very introverted. All those things make it difficult. However, like I said, he is the most wonderful man I have ever met. I know he would always protect me, never hurt me, never cheat on me, and his mind and his heart are extraordinary.
I am so lost, because I could spend my life with him, but at the same time it is tough being with him day to day. He worked in another city for the last ten years, and since he had to move back to his mothers, he has no friends here except me. I don't want to lose him, I don't want to live without him, but it is nearly impossible to live with him.
No man will ever compare to him, but I know that my life will be easier, more functional, and more fun without him. Please help me, I don't know what to do.